Join Date: Apr 2020
Language: English and some others
I've tried many times to avoid feeling rejected by telling myself that I shouldn't care / or should expect to be rejected because of who I am, but no matter how many times I've tried, rejection always gets me and I get into a spiral that goes from overthinking every single word I've said that could have made the other person hate me/reject me to coming to the conclusion that I will always be hated/rejected, that I don't deserve to be loved, just to come out of it again by telling myself: "well, but there are just soooo many people in this planet, someone's gotta like me, right?" So I try again, get rejected again and the cycle repeats.
It hurts every time no matter how much I try to convince myself it shouldn't.
I think it has a lot to do with self-worth but also, the fact that we all want to belong in this society, I mean, nobody wants to be called an outcast and be left alone. We all want to connect at some point so being rejected by the ones we thought we could trust is painful. Thing is, we are all going to be rejected at some point in our lives, we just can't be liked by just everyone as we also don't like just anyone that comes across us. I think the situation gets out of control when it keeps repeating or when you can't seem to run away from the place you feel rejected at (let's say, you feel rejected at your current job but can't leave it for economical reasons; or you feel rejected at school but can't transfer to another one).
So yeah, rejection sucks, but as others have pointed out, as long as you go out and put yourself in the position on which you can be rejected, I guess there's no way you can't run away from experiencing it.