I don't really make efforts to fit in. If it clicks and I get to connect with someone, it's good. More often then not, it goes flat. It doesn't go too bad most of the time. In some cases, I got kinda verbually abusive, not in what I was saying, but in using a LOUD voice and was too direct. It's mostly when I have been "betrayed" or so. I'm learning to be more mindful and to stop to cling at pain. Being rejected is "better" than being deceived, used and put away afterward. I think people gain from being comfortable with themselves, with their thoughts, before adding people. If you get too thoughful by yourself, maybe you just need to slow down and relax so that you feel the moment instead. Ok, enough of that now. Everyone gets rejected. Even the "super popular" are denied of some things at times. Less often, but imagine the ones who think they can't get rejected, eventually getting rejected! I think moving on, forgive but don't forget.