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post #1 of 13 (permalink) Old 10-23-2019, 05:57 AM Thread Starter
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Quit my job and feel lost


I had a really good job for about a month with a really great nonprofit that did good work. I didnt know how much it would set me off. I had to cold call about 30 people a month to see how the program was going for them and had to approach them in person as well to ask questions disguised as just small talk. For the first week I had anxiety attacks through the nights and became a not so great person to be around. I started therapy and medication as soon as I could. The job had monthly deadlines for these contacts that needed to be made in person or by phone call. I kept crossing off the total each time I gained the courage to call. I would cry before work and right before I went to bed dreading the next day because of the work that was getting down to the wire. I had gotten the rhythm down of some parts of the job, but it was ruining my life. It was very hard for me to separate my work anxiety from the rest of my life. After a month, I gained this morsel of confidence and I told my boss what was going on with me. I told her about my social anxiety and depression and how it was most enflamed when working with the college students which is a huge part of my job. They had no idea because I am a pro at stuffing my emotions, since I’ve been living with social anxiety since I was 11 years old. It was weird for them to say that I was doing so well because that makes me wonder whether life for me should just be a performance where I am screaming inside while I somehow keep moving and making these things happen. They made an exception for me and let me not have a 2 weeks notice at all. They were very sweet and kind about it. Now, I am just very lost without another job to fill my days. I don’t want to rush into anything too soon, but I also need to fill my days. Financially, my parents have ensured me that I will be ok. I have a degree in sociology and I love community development and humanities kinds of topics, I’m kindve a liberal arts nerd. Grad school seems like a good step, but I don’t prefer to sink deeper into debt. Does anyone have suggestions for jobs that never include harsh interactions, and only require more formal wrote interactions with strangers?
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I have no recommendations, as life will always have annoying/rude people that can get to you, but I want to commend you for having the courage to talk to your boss about your mental health. Was it hard? How'd you go about it? I'd probably be so anxious that I would probably bail out at the very last minute of rehearsing my speech
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You could always learn computer coding. All certification is done online (and fairly quickly) and once certified, you definitely will have job options. Since digital technology is one of the industries of the future, there are always openings in fields related to it. Computer coding requires virtually no human interaction and you can typically make excellent pay. Even if you decide not to take a job in that field, coding is a great skill set to have.

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It was hard and I have to gain the courage because I knew that I would be a weepy mess in front of my boss, but she was very understanding and sweet about it thankfully.
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You could always learn computer coding. All certification is done online (and fairly quickly) and once certified, you definitely will have job options. Since digital technology is one of the industries of the future, there are always openings in fields related to it. Computer coding requires virtually no human interaction and you can typically make excellent pay. Even if you decide not to take a job in that field, coding is a great skill set to have.
Ok, that’s a good idea, I’ll have to look into that. Thanks!
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I have no recommendations, as life will always have annoying/rude people that can get to you, but I want to commend you for having the courage to talk to your boss about your mental health. Was it hard? How'd you go about it? I'd probably be so anxious that I would probably bail out at the very last minute of rehearsing my speech [IMG class=inlineimg]/forum/images/SAS_2015/smilies/tango_face_smile_big.png[/IMG]
Thank you! There was no rehearsing and it was kind’ve spur of the moment. I walked into work and went straight to her office and she could tell on my face that something was wrong. I told her that I haven’t been very honest and I have really been struggling with my mental health. She asked me some more questions about it and reassured me. I was a weepy mess and kind’ve just felt completely vulnerable and pathetic, but then I didn’t have to go back.
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You could always learn computer coding. All certification is done online (and fairly quickly) and once certified, you definitely will have job options.
How difficult is it to learn coding? Have to be a math genius or something? What certification would you start out with?
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How difficult is it to learn coding? Have to be a math genius or something? What certification would you start out with?
I only know very basic coding, but from the stuff that I have learned, it was surprisingly simple. Obviously, as with most things, it will take a little time and practice to get the hang of it. And no! You definitely don’t need to be a math genius or anything to learn it. There are loads of free online resources that will help you learn everything from the ground up. CodeAcademy is one of them. They offer free online classes in 12 different coding languages. Definitely check it out. As far as certifications go, I honestly don’t know which language would be best to learn first. I’m sure Google could help you there. I know that JavaScript is a popular computer language and is used widely in the technology world. Perhaps that might be a good certification to start with.

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How difficult is it to learn coding? Have to be a math genius or something? What certification would you start out with?

Its's easy. First start to think about what you want to make. Coding isn't coding. Do you want to make a game? A website? Move files? A program? Work on protecting yourself against hackers? Or other things I can't think of.
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Its's easy. First start to think about what you want to make. Coding isn't coding. Do you want to make a game? A website? Move files? A program? Work on protecting yourself against hackers? Or other things I can't think of.
Not sure what I would want to code. I guess which type of coding is must in demand in the job market? Which would be of the most value to a employer and easiest to get a job with?
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