I get this a lot...a lot...a LOT. In fact this is the root of my problem socializing, the sheer number of times people have initiated contact with me, only to bail out soon afterward...once in a while we manage to make friends for several years, but the result is the same, they lose interest, stop replying. It's the ones that I finally grew to befriend but who bailed out on me anyway that truly hurt.
It's likely you're not reciprocating as expected and come across detached, which is interpreted as lack of interest, snobbery and so on.
This is my theory, and at least in more recent years is likely the cause behind many people losing interest in me. Unfortunately, even with people with whom I really tried hard to reciprocate, and with people *I* contacted first, the results are the same. So far only one person has managed to sustain prolonged interest in me.
I don't usually get them being p*ssy to me afterward...they just lose all interest. Granted, my interactions are online, so the only way they COULD be p*ssy is if we got back in touch, and yes, the few times I manage to wrangle a response/explanation out of them as for why they stopped responding, they almost always take it out on me. One told me she had more important things in her life to deal with and had had to "drop a lot" of friends without telling them, and seemed offended that I dared to think I could've made the cut (she'd insisted repeatedly before then that she was going to reply to me, seemed enthused about it, and had written in her online journal about how lonely and bored she was...which just made the rejection hurt all the more, I wasn't good enough to alleviate her boredom); another one took offense that I felt discouraged that she'd carbon-copied her reply to me to a dozen other penpals rather than write something personal, all I did was let her know I envied her number of friends (I was polite about it) and didn't feel I had much to offer, she turned on me by saying I couldn't be the most important thing in everyone's life, called my mental status into question, etc. I guess those dozen people didn't alleviate her own loneliness, she was back to posting ads on the penpal site shortly after. Again...I wasn't good enough to be her friend.
Sorry to go on at length but it's frustrating, to feel like I'll just never be good enough. I don't put very much effort into maintaining communication anymore because of this. The effort is draining and almost never pays off. I've tried being chatty and outspoken and people wanted me to shut up; I've tried being quiet and keeping mostly to myself and people wanted me to open up. And lately I've gotten people wanting me to shut up again.
No wonder making friends is so frustrating!
If I don't reply to you, it's NOTHING PERSONAL. It's my ANXIETY.
(Devetko's boyfriend Stan Brooks & Det. Reichert are horsing around.)
Det. Kristeva: "If it were legal you'd marry me, right?"
Det. Devetko: "Definitely."
(It's legal now!! But Kristeva's already married. ;_; )
"No canoes...no maple sugar...this place is horribly uncivilized."--Manabozho, Escape From Manitou Island