Originally Posted by leaf in the wind
Prior to covid, I would just do stuff to distract myself. But now there's no real solution or reprieve.
Just suffer and hope there's no severe lasting damage I guess.
Just saw this, and to say.. its the thing I am struggling with most atm.
There are some things that can help, to some degree.. and I think its important to do whatever you can, whatever you have access to, to try to feel less lonely, even in tiny ways. Some of the problems with loneliness come from the perception we have of others, we imagine them to not experience this, and there seems to be some kind of weird stigma about it, which means its not something people talk about, which means I think theres a sense of shame, and a whole mass of people (almost everyone, tbh) who feels lonely on some level, regularly, feeling they are to blame for it.
It's the human condition, imo.
My approach is to do whatever the **** i can, even if its small things, like self care, keeping busy, and embracing struggle as a means of self improvement (because life is a struggle), and accepting this is the major source of pain I have atm.
The stoic in me says "separate off what you can and cant control, do something with what you can, ignore what you cant". Therefore, what small things can I do that will help somewhat? Even in trying to adopt a slightly different attitude? What should I drop? (any sense of shame, or stigma, or feeling it can be totally fixed).
Not sure if this helps any, but its something I am struggling with pretty badly atm as well. Hang in there.