Hey, pretty interesting story and if you do have SA you are doing pretty good managing it already. These are just my opinion and I am sure some people will disagree but here are my solutions,
1. Get cognitive behavior therapy help. You will learn how to re-wire your brain. It will teach you how to see the world in a more practical and realistic way.
2. Just moving out of your comfort zone wont do anything by itself. Thats why it follows after your worked on changing your thinking. The goal is not just to go and suffer through something that you dislike. The goal is to go do something and change your thoughts so that before you hated to give a presentation but now you look forward to it and see it as a interesting challenge or opportunity.
3. I believe exercise is also crucial, if we dont use our bodies then they become weak and slow.
4. Meditation is also a must for me.
and let me just say, you probably are very capable of moving on past college and getting a job. You have just told yourself you are not and that has become reality.
Thanks for the advice! I'm already working on points 1 and 2, by participating in a group course that will allow me to identify my wrong thought patterns (predicting future, having negative thoughts about "neutral" situations etc). Also I'm trying to figure out what my real interests are instead of doing things that other people enjoy (and therefore i should enjoy) or doing everything i think society demands of me.
I've actually started exercising again more regularly (jogging 3 times a week) and joined a football team consisting of friends and acquaintances that will play like 2 times a week (1 match and 1 training) and it's making me feel better already.
Meditation I don't know, never been really into that, but I guess it's worth looking into.
I was just wondering how long do you play computer games for? Maybe your symptoms are caused by sitting in front of a computer too long...it is great you are a chairman in the student association! Social anxiety definitely lessens with some socializing! its ironic but true..i try and practice out the things i am phobic about every chance i get at work...eg. take the initiative to talk and be the center of attention although this initially makes me nervous...
Thanks for the reply! I've been playing games for most of my life, really. Like I said I became fascinated by the computer at a young age. Probably also been addicted all my life, but luckily I've always kept friends and been able to finish my school/studies without problems. I just wish I recognized the addiction earlier, because I would have participated alot more in social things so my anxiety would probably have been less severe by now.
I can totally imagine some of my symptoms are caused by sitting behind a computerscreen for hours every day, so I'm gonna try to mix my day up more by going out more and doing other non-computer related things.