I`m fairly new here but love shyness is for certain my biggest obstacle at this point in time. I would like to share some of my love shy story with the hope that any could shed some insight into this crippling issue
I`m a male)
-Trouble approaching those I`m attracted to.
-Don`t have the balls to ask them out.
-Getting a obsessive like crush on any girl that is friendly and personable towards you.
-Stalkish like behaviours
I haven`t recieved much attention from the opposite sex ever and I tend to equate that with being unattractive.
so.......-poor body image to a certain point as well and calling myself derogatory names.
The staring is by far the most concerning issue, I do it all the time.
Trouble approaching those I'm attracted to....
This affects perhaps over 50% of the population. You need to see them differently instead of how you seem them now. Most probably as really special in some way
Don't have the balls to ask them out...
just asking out strangers is always awkward and difficult for most people. You need to go to places where the atmosphere allows the expectation to be asked out like clubs. Get drunk or go rolling. Introductions through friends always makes things seem less awkward.
Fawning over girls who show slight interest or just talks to you....
common experience among people who want something badly or are deep down addicted to approval. I used to get crushes on girls who would show up late to school and get in trouble if I also showed up late and got in trouble lol.
Do you stare at them when they can see you or only when you think they can't? When I was at school, I wouldn't dare stare at any girl lest someone see me, or even worse the girl
I find girls have a habit of staring at guys they find hot. They will just stare and stare. I think it's just the physical attraction and lack of ability to do anything else that can make people stare and stare and stare.
stalkish like behaviours....
How do you stalk? Do you follow them around obviously or do it in subtle ways? Are you still in school? I sometimes stalked but was very, very sly and nobody knew what the hell I was doing since I always had a legit excuse as to why I was at that place.
little attention from opposite sex...
completely the opposite from my past situation. But because sa got in the way, I still ended up with nothing.
calling yourself names and a poor body image....
you must work on these issues to see improvement in confidence.