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Join Date: Jun 2010
Misery Loves Company
People like to provide comfort with the ideas like 'you are not alone in feeling this way,' or 'everyone has their struggles' so you shouldn't feel down about having your own, or my least favorite 'others have it worse.' I find it has the opposite effect, its depressing to think that most people deal with one of a variety of issues. That so many people can relate, means the human condition sucks.
I think that it is a developmental thing humans go through, some later than others, that at some point you realize you and your problems are not that special. I admit that when I first learned about social anxiety many years ago it was a relief to find other people had the same issue, could relate, and there were strategies for dealing with it. I have from a early age felt its so disheartening that humans still deal with the same stupid stuff over and over again. That it seems almost inevitable that you or someone in your circle will deal with abuse, addiction, or some other common misery. Not only that, that we don't have a sure fire way of passing on to people how to get through it.
I'm not sure the point of this post, but do you find it helpful to realize there are some number of people with a similar struggle as you? How about do you agree and find it helpful to realize most people have had to deal with something in their life which may help them empathize with you even if theirs is a different struggle?
How many happy well-adjusted people are out there in the world? Are other people just better able to cope with their set-backs? What makes them better able to cope?