"To me it is about going with the flow and allowing emotions instead of fighting them. Fighting the negative emotion just lends them more power, causes you to brood and dwell on the crap in your life."
Aint that the truth! I think you would really love Eckhart Tolle with that above quote^
Its working great for me, I meditate many hours a day and listen to retreats and audiobooks. I really like Jon Kabbat-Zinn as far as mindfulness goes he's my favorite teacher. Also there are other meditations you can try. The one that has helped me the most is Adyashanti's meditation and meditative inquiry work. Deals with surrendering to what is in the present moment and stop resisting mentally. Also the inquiry is really really cool and helps loads with seeing through your self image / beliefs / thoughts etc.
I highly recommend you buy an mp3 player and listen to the following audiobooks / retreats in this order. The nice thing about listening to audiobooks is you enter a meditative state just listening to them. If you need the links where you can download any of these just send me a pm, in fact I'd listen to these a couple times before you really start the next leg of your journey as they will really help when things go wrong.
Eckhart Tolle - The Power of Now
Adyashanti - True meditation
Adyashanti - Five Truths about Truth
Adyashanti - Mount Madonna retreat
(Download all the Adyashanti you can! Its nice because people come up and ask him questions and have the same problems that you have as well so its almost like he's answering your own questions, I can't tell you how many times I'd have a 'problem' meditating or with 'surrendering' and the next person who would come up to ask a question would have the same question as me, truly transformative)
Adyashanti's meditation is also incredibly effective with dealing with negative situations outside of meditation. In fact take everything you learn from it and use it whenever you can, everytime you feel fear or a negative situation arises. Same with Eckhart Tolle. I had some truly incredible things happen when I used Eckhart Tolle's advice with dealing with a panic attack (he calls it transmuting the painbody)
Also check out Byron Katie who is also really good with the meditative inquiry. It really helps see through those negative beliefs and thoughts of yours.
I never dwell on the things I used to obsess about compulsively anymore. I went from feeling a 3-4 out of 10 and consumed with repetitive negative thoughts that caused a lot of suffering to feeling a 7 out of 10 on average with little social anxiety and very peaceful and calm feeling. Also for example yesterday I was so present and in the moment it was great. Lots of stuff that would have normally triggered a negative emotional reaction just didn't faze me.
Also I wrote up some on various meditations in this post if you are interested, has links to guided meditations also a Jon Kabbat Zinn one that would love
Anyways I hope this has helped and it would be real cool if we kept in touch and exchanged experiences. I'm here if you run into any problems as well, I'll try to help to the best of my ability. Just remember not all meditations will be good. Its perfectly ok to have bad meditations where nothing seems to go right (I had one just earlier today) Those are just opportunities to surrender, sometimes you will sometimes you won't, 'it is as it is'. Be kind and patient with yourself