Great White Shark
Join Date: Apr 2013
Language: Galactic Basic, machine language
Every person has flaws. Just because someone learns something negative about you, doesn't mean they will think of you less - in fact, quite contrary, if all they know about you is good facts, then they will see you as fake, as an actor, as a robot, rather than a regular human being.
I have a ton of flaws or relatively embarrassing facts about myself, which I can state here openly:
1) I have a skin condition that makes my face reddish and somewhat "flaky" naturally.
2) I am really terrible at not being late to anything.
3) I am pretty disorganized.
4) I have zero relationship experience.
5) My granddad was an alcoholic who died to alcoholic poisoning.
6) I generally speak English with barely any significant accent, but when I'm sleepy, my accent can get pretty strong, and people start asking where I'm from.
I can go on and on, and I'm not afraid to share any of it. Why? Because I realize that I am a human, and humans are individuals, with their strengths and weaknesses. Many people have weaknesses that I do not, and I have strength that many people do not.
If you reflect on these things and realize that being mad over someone's flaws makes no sense, then you will also realize that people are unlikely to be mad at you for telling them something. Those few jerks who would aren't worth interacting with anyway, and most people will be very understanding.
Just try this experiment: pick the most embarrassing fact about you, take a deep breath, walk up to a stranger and share that fact with them. Look at the reaction. If you are afraid of doing it with strangers, do it with someone who you know pretty well. Either way, you will see that people actually don't care that much, definitely not to the point of getting mad. That will liberate you and allow you to share more of such facts with others, and so on and so on - and you will break the vicious cycle.