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An extremely basic and excellent guideline for life, is this: are you living in the moment, where you are now, or are you living (and predicting) the future (whatever its degree of likeliness)? If the answer is the latter, then you are not living in the moment, where you are now, and therefore nobody is currently living your life.

Life is meant to be lived, not predicted and moaned over hours on end. Get back to reality, to where you are now. xP

This is a problem most people with SA have. Past doesn't matter; future doesn't matter; present is what is important.
Agreed.
I like your reply in that post. Couldn't have said it better myself.

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post #22 of 860 (permalink) Old 02-12-2012, 02:57 PM
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I'm as guilty of this as anyone. Sometimes though, no matter how hard I try, my mind just will not let it go.
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Yeah, easier said than done.
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post #24 of 860 (permalink) Old 02-12-2012, 09:41 PM
live in the moment :)
 
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amen brosef

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Agree, but some problems effected our present, such as small amount of social history, which causes awkward situations.

Of course, the only solution to overcome this circle is to keep putting yourself there, but again, I agree that "it is easier said than done"
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I think I really needed this post. Thanks...
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post #27 of 860 (permalink) Old 02-12-2012, 09:51 PM
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its so much harder said than done but , i try and try more every day its like the more you dwell on the past and the future the worse SA becomes, i have just got to learn to live in the moment..
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I tell myself this everyday. Doesn't work.
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Something I have to work on.
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Yeah, easier said than done.
Course its easier said then done. No one said it was easy. Its just that knowledge is power and I hoped that this would free some minds a bit.

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Course its easier said then done. No one said it was easy. Its just that knowledge is power and I hoped that this would free some minds a bit.
okay. nobody's telling you not to say it.
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Thanks man this helped i constantly think about the past and it really sucks
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post #33 of 860 (permalink) Old 02-13-2012, 05:05 PM
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It might be easier said than done, but just keep saying it and the doing it gets easier too.
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Almost impossible to do, but it's nice that this got stickied, will be a real good reminder! Thanks for the post.
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even with letting things go, social anxiety keeps us from doing things in the present.

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I have to look at this post every now and then, over and over again... xD
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"Those who do not remember their past are condemned to repeat their mistakes."
As with most other things, it's a matter of moderation.

A Christian prayer comes to mind..
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference."


You can never get rid of things that happened in the past nor can you your hopes for the future. And neither should you.
The key, and the hard part, is figuring out which things from the past that are still relevant for you to learn from and which things that will only bring harm.
This isn't something we can just whip up just like that, but something that takes a lifetime to really get good at.
It is something to learn as you get better and not a prerequisite for getting better.
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Great post and i completely agree..! its just what i was thinking..you're right it is easier said than done but it's something we have to work through!
I know what its like to have your body in the present and your head somewhere else, that was me. I'm addicted to music and i used to fantaze listening to music and my brain got into the habit and i ended up losing my mind, so it's so important to live in the moment and forget about the past..what's done is done, move on!
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It's something you need to remind yourself in order to overcome SA and to finally be able to live in the present...great post.

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