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Sus y 11-05-2017 01:00 AM

I must let it go, but that means I'll acept there will be no other chance to change things. But can I really change them? :(
OK... I'm freeing myself of this.

rayneclowd 12-14-2017 10:33 PM

Im working on this right now. Somedays Ill have some victories and then other days for no reason at all it'll all flood in like Im going through it again and Ill think about what I could have done or what could have changed. I know its important to catch those thoughts when they come up as quick as they can because the longer it plays out in your head the more anxious you get thinking about it.

SunshineSam218 12-19-2017 04:44 PM

Winter blues seems to be killing me and making me think differently which is annoying me. I've caught onto it when I kept crying over every little thing yesterday and I wasn't in the mood to talk to anyone or even reach out to anyone for that matter because at the time I was crying so bad. Anytime I feel depressed or down about life, I sort of need to take a step back and focus on myself for a bit so I don't fall down a black hole again. So right now I'm trying to focus on something I'm looking forward too and keeping myself with artwork.

lightspeed418 12-20-2017 08:38 PM

I have made some bad socially awkward things to other people that turned them off, but thank God I still have two friends in my classroom that actually see my strengths and are helping me become a better person. Advice from my mom and pastor is to focus on these two friendships and let go of the other "friendships", especially since many of them are making fun of me behind my back.

seekshallfind 12-27-2017 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by nathanw (Post 1059655377)
i agree and i know youre right ive tried it so many times, to think positive and everything, and then whats happened is im somewhere where guys will start talking about say, their high school days, and it just brings back all my painful memories-like a dagger in my heart, and then it all comes crashing down!! HELP!!!

I see that you are your thirties and by this time most people forgot HS and moved on with their profession.
If HS hits a chilly spot then it's time to change priorities and think of that as a closed coffin in some lost cemetery, take only
the positive light of your youth and resonate this for warmth. My cold past just gives me a chilling effect so I look at all
good deeds I have done for others and hope this kills that chiller mode. Time is in one direction "Now-Forward" all we have is the
present to bear with and make it so it is true to the soul in real-time consciousness.
Peace will generate while being still and quiet, then wake up to a clear head of total freedom from prison.

seekshallfind 12-27-2017 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Gentleheart_Flower (Post 1091785218)
Winter blues seems to be killing me and making me think differently which is annoying me. I've caught onto it when I kept crying over every little thing yesterday and I wasn't in the mood to talk to anyone or even reach out to anyone for that matter because at the time I was crying so bad. Anytime I feel depressed or down about life, I sort of need to take a step back and focus on myself for a bit so I don't fall down a black hole again. So right now I'm trying to focus on something I'm looking forward too and keeping myself with artwork.

Being an artist will break you from that deep dark world, spend more time out of the box and live in that creative zone of interests, not many people can do this and if your heart and soul give this talent then focus on it and stay away from the chilling blues. Every November I get those dark cold emotions going but keep busy with my talents and forget the dark and it will work with patience.

BigWorldSmallGirl 12-29-2017 09:26 AM

Most sometimes Iíll wake up not wanting to do anything and other times Iíll be energised and ready to face the day itís so weird becuase you never know what mood youíll wake up in
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Lohikaarme 12-30-2017 06:06 AM

This is one of the most crucial mindsets you must develop to be happy in life. Gradually learning how to let go of past mistakes is a true game changer.

The liberating feeling accompanying this revelation is nearly indescribable.

SunshineSam218 01-02-2018 06:30 PM

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Originally Posted by seekshallfind (Post 1091845185)
Being an artist will break you from that deep dark world, spend more time out of the box and live in that creative zone of interests, not many people can do this and if your heart and soul give this talent then focus on it and stay away from the chilling blues. Every November I get those dark cold emotions going but keep busy with my talents and forget the dark and it will work with patience.

Yes, I seemed to have noticed this a lot of the time. This is why I love art and poetry so much. Because I always end up zoned out anytime I'm keeping myself busy. Thanks for giving me advice. This will help out a lot. Hope things are going great for you and had a lovely Christmas and New Years!! :)

Social Faux Pas 01-15-2018 07:31 PM

I was just thinking about this. It's something I've always struggled with.

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Originally Posted by identitycrisis (Post 1059656897)
Sometimes though, no matter how hard I try, my mind just will not let it go.

I couldn't've said it better myself.

tulips101 02-04-2018 02:19 AM

This is what Iím trying to do right now.Thanks for the reminder

Rosebard 02-11-2018 06:11 PM

Yes thanks for the reminder. I noticed that I do tend to replay past mistakes (like if I talked too fast on the phone or if I made a mistake via email) in my mind which causes me to worry about doing it again. Letting it go and moving forward is something I struggle with but I'm working on it

Morst999 03-28-2018 09:18 PM

I agree with you, I am the type of person that doesn't think about the bad things happened in my life. Once they happened, I always accept it.

Selin 04-22-2018 08:59 AM

In her book on SA, Ellen Hendrickson makes a really great suggestion.

So often, we try and measure ourselves and our social performance by how we think others reacted to us (which, part of the disorder is to way over-read, over-interpret, and personalize what we feel are negative responses or cues from others). Instead, a big part of treatment is simply putting ourselves out there in careful ways (as in exposure therapy) and then instead of measuring the encounter by whether or not we made an instant best friend (which isn't likely under any circumstances even with the most socially skilled people) or not, we simply measure ourselves by what we did while avoiding our safety behaviors.

Just letting go of anxiety is nearly impossible because of its neurophysiological roots, but teaching ourselves through careful exposure work and giving ourselves credit for trying, whether or not the person in question reacted positively to us that we don't need to be afraid of social situations is something that is possible.

Sasseth 05-08-2018 10:00 AM

Let it go... let it go... and let it goo.. yes!! :))))

skyler33 05-17-2018 08:30 PM

thxxxx

sean24 06-03-2018 03:36 PM

First of all Id like to say thank you for this post. It took me literally YEARS to grasp this concept....I've been battling with SEVERE anxiety since my high school days. Im now 27 and have done a lot over the years to try and tame this animal called anxiety. I tried it all from meditation to medications! I honestly thank god for meditation and I would HIGHLY encourage other's to practice it! I also have been taking a supplement called CBD Oil before work and eases my stress levels before my stressful day at work (sales coordinator, I have to deal with people all day ugh...) Anyway I wish you guys all find peace one day.

fantaspaceunicornz 07-06-2018 10:29 PM

A friend once told me "If if dosen't matter in five years, don't spend five seconds thinking about it". I'm still struggling with this myself and now currently trying to come out of a dark place. I spend way too much time thinking about stuff that happened years ago, ugh. But I shall try to stay positive, let's all support each other :)

twitchy666 07-08-2018 11:17 PM

Never let go. Fight.
 
I uphold

never keep anyone waiting. the world far too slow for me. I'm too fast for this world, on many fronts (dimensionally):
striding ahead
overtaking

awake early
never lazy

interested if involved in firing people. I'd include all reasons +/-

accurate & precise, articulate

must be a reason why the world doesn't like me (unable to specify - cos THEY refuse to)

my world of loss. (friends / fiends), employers, indirectly: locked out of returning to career: WORK POLICE: Recruiting Industry

most successful people are profoundly stupid. politicians, SPORT!, actors, brainless, careless, of authority (world leaders, wealthy), holding back everyone else. YOU CAN'T!!! whimsy

philosophers, scientists, historians.. ignored, not appreciated


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