I sometimes wonder whether my issue actually is social anxiety because I rarely feel anxious in social situations. I feel nervous and uncomfortable, but I don't panic.
The other thing that I just CANNOT wrap my head around is that most SA'ers are functional: most are in school, have jobs (careers!), have had relationships, and yes, many have friends/acquaintances. I don't relate to that at all.
I've read that SA'ers don't truly believe they're defective, inferior people; that many still see themselves as likeable, intelligent, etc. AvPD, otoh, is characterized by a persistent inferiority complex and extremely low self-esteem. Basically, they feel wholly inadequate, so they avoid everything and just isolate themselves. that describes me to a T (but I still dont' know whether it's avpd - kinda don't care either at this point; i don't think i'm going to change).
Makes ya wonder.