In a way Im glad to have SA - Social Anxiety Forum
 
Thread Tools
post #1 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-01-2010, 11:32 AM Thread Starter
SAS Member
 
defoe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 410
My Mood: Busy

In a way Im glad to have SA


In a way Im glad to have SA, because, that gives me the backup that I arent a totally strange person, and that I would actually be normal If SA wasnt in control of me.
Also, I dont have to feel guilty if something embaressing happens to me, because i know i couldnt have done better.
But that doesnt mean that I just sit back, no, i fight against it every day, I set myself goals, f.e. talking to more people, or making friends.
I"m working hard and challeging myself everyday...

Some people say that Im lazy, but that isnt true, Its just because I have such a fight against my SA that I arent able to concentrate so much on that what Im doing.
defoe is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #2 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-01-2010, 12:58 PM
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: England
Posts: 104
In a way im glad i have SA too, i don't let people in my life that easily so at least i can always be safer and not let anyone hurt me (like friends, boyfriends)


TheWeirdOne is offline  
post #3 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-01-2010, 01:19 PM Thread Starter
SAS Member
 
defoe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 410
My Mood: Busy
A part from that you are much stronger and mighty when you have more secrets, instead of telling everybody about your problems etc.
Because: When you keep something a secret, youve still sort of got a joker you can use by telling someone
But when you have already told sb. you cant wipe it out of his mind anymore.
defoe is offline  
 
post #4 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-01-2010, 02:34 PM
SAS Member
 
Stargirl09's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Wyke, Bradford
Gender: Female
Posts: 697
S.A doesn't have many redeeming features, I'd take a life without s.a much sooner, jeez. When I make a fool of myself it's like I've shattered everything in my life. Today I was thinking how great it would be to go swimming, just something really simple like that makes me feel excited right in my tummy, that smell of chlorine and the changing rooms and all the fun. There's no pressure there.

I don't see anything good about S.A, sometimes I do play it up though. Like when someone stands next to me at the bus stop and I glance sideways at the from beneath my hood, I feel like everyones watching me thinking 'Oh, she's really shy' so I do indulge it but give me normality anyday.

The biggest mistake you can make in life is to be continually afraid of making one-Elbert Hubbard
Stargirl09 is offline  
post #5 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-01-2010, 05:56 PM
SAS Member
 
Enola's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: In my head.
Gender: Female
Posts: 83
No thanks! I'd rather not have SA. It has totally wrecked my life.
Enola is offline  
post #6 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-01-2010, 09:47 PM
The Round Circle
 
Saekon's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Australia, NSW
Gender: Male
Age: 24
Posts: 733
I can't really remember anything but SA, only vague sketches... But I'm doing fine, I don't really mind, but I still want to get better because I'm sure I'll be better off for it. Still, that's just my opinion, I'm sure everyone here has their own opinion.

Well, I'm fine with it right now. A few years ago I'd be cursing it every second. But I'd blame that on circumstances.
Saekon is offline  
post #7 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-02-2010, 03:21 AM
SAS Member
 
PiecesFalling's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Australia
Gender: Female
Age: 31
Posts: 73
Quote:
Originally Posted by defoe View Post
Some people say that Im lazy, but that isnt true, Its just because I have such a fight against my SA that I arent able to concentrate so much on that what Im doing.
Ooh, I've heard this too! I can't stand being called lazy because I don't feel I am and can be very hardworking and able to put my mind to the task. If I could explain to people that I want to do so much, but my anxiety plagues me to the point of being stuck and unable to move... My mum also says that if it's not laziness and there is a problem, why am I not doing anything about it? See a doctor? I have seen a doctor in the past, even counselling sessions, and antidepressants, but doing it consistently and on a regular basis was too much. Where do I turn now? Just dealing with each day at a time and hoping that I can take risks and learn to cope better. I feel like I'm in a much better position than in the past so that's something.
PiecesFalling is offline  
post #8 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-02-2010, 03:56 AM
Searching for the light
 
bfree15's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: England
Gender: Female
Age: 29
Posts: 64
Here Here, I agree with everything you said. We are among those who actually know that what we suffer from has a name. There are many people still out there that have never heard of SA and don’t know they suffer from it. They don’t realise there is help out there and have a chance to overcome the difficulties they face. I myself was among those people only a few months ago and finding out about it has given me the hope I was looking for

Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.".

http://thezoe-trope.blogspot.com/
bfree15 is offline  
post #9 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-02-2010, 07:50 AM
In My World
 
VeggieGirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: London
Gender: Female
Age: 28
Posts: 297
Yes and no tbh, I do wish I could have "normal" friendships and I think I would be far less lonely then however I do wonder if without SA I wouldn't even feel lonely even if I had the same amount of friends as I do at the moment?

Everything happens for a reason
VeggieGirl is offline  
post #10 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-02-2010, 08:53 AM
SAS Member
 
Wael's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Gender: Male
Posts: 80
My experience was that the less I was worried about SA (i.e. the less I actively tried to change), the more I actually changed... Your situation can get better with time... Live a fuller life as much as you can... The small talks that you will be doing as you go thought your life will have a gradual good effect...
Wael is offline  
post #11 of 11 (permalink) Old 02-02-2010, 08:54 AM Thread Starter
SAS Member
 
defoe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 410
My Mood: Busy
i think some people dont understand what i mean
defoe is offline  
Reply

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Glad to be here overthinking The First Step 5 11-17-2009 04:56 AM
Hello, I'm so glad to be here blueblu The First Step 5 03-01-2009 07:22 PM
Glad I'm not the only one Aldridge Coping With Social Anxiety 2 09-27-2008 09:17 PM
Glad To Be Here Teo The First Step 14 07-15-2007 11:22 PM
glad you don't know me soundsgood The Arts 3 10-31-2006 01:33 AM

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome