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All I do is occasionally read a book and go on the Internet. I've tried to explore stuff, but of course I just lose interest.
Are those not interests of yours that you like to do in your spare time? Sure there may not be much to say when you simply state what your two interests are. But you can lengthen the conversation by explaining why you like those interests. You can tell the other person:

- Why you like reading books from a particular genre
- How the characters in the novel relate to people you know
- Ideas about life or the world that the book has presented
- Discuss parts of the storyline to get them interested in the title
- Interesting news articles, videos, music you found online that you want to share
- Good deals you found online

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I have a few interests here and there. But the stuff I really like I can't have. sigh

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Reading books is a very good interest. I read too many books myself.



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I have a few interests here and there. But the stuff I really like I can't have. sigh
What things can't you have?

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I have two things to say. Lend me your ear if you will. First, what another poster said is true. One of the symptoms of depression is a loss of interest in "things" although usually they are things you used to be interested in.
My next suggestion is out of the box but humor me if you will. In the native tradition there is a way of learning where your life direction needs to go. You have to go and sit somewhere with no distractions for a few days though. Its called a vigil or a vision quest and other names like a solo, or a pilgramage. its like the guy who found fishing, there is something that the great spirit or God needs you to do, you just need to find it. When a person lacks spirituality I think they get kind of empty inside. I suggest finding a spiritual tradition you can get in to and you will find out a lot about yourself. Add you will laugh and laugh!
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i can totally relate to what ur saying. i'm 31 and have no interests at all. no hobbies. i have a bf who is obsessed with playing pool. he plays at least 15 hours a week. that's being conservative. i have tried to think about something i'd be passionate about. i wish i did have that one thing i loved and wanted to be an expert in but there is nothing. i've thought about it too. many, many times trying to find that one thing that would grab me but there is nothing. i wish i could find it.
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I have the same problem. I have no interests or hobbies. I'm not interested in taking anything up either because everything is boring to me.
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I'm interested in some things, but very reluctant to discover anything new. Was driving by a bank yesterday and saw a sign that said "the man who never made a mistake never tried anything new." I know it was supposed to be a positive message, but when you have issues like ours you interpret that backwards--if we don't try anything new in life, then we won't make mistakes, therefore we won't draw attention and won't be ridiculed and criticized. It's boring and depressing, but at least it's safe.
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Ahh, you don't know how much I can relate to this. Every thing is so boring to me too. The Internet is the only thing that can really keep my interest for hours on end.
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I can relate too. I don't think there has ever been anything I was passionate about. Maybe video games? I would like to explore stuff and find out, because that's what people do, but SA and especially GAD make it nigh impossible. Even just imagining it stresses me out beyond what I can tolerate...

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I agree, everything is boring.
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I'd recommend music :v might not seem your thing but music is so huge on the inside I'm sure you'll find something you like the sound of. And if you do find something then you might be inspired to do something else, maybe even learn an instrument.
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I'm interested in some things, but very reluctant to discover anything new. Was driving by a bank yesterday and saw a sign that said "the man who never made a mistake never tried anything new." I know it was supposed to be a positive message, but when you have issues like ours you interpret that backwards--if we don't try anything new in life, then we won't make mistakes, therefore we won't draw attention and won't be ridiculed and criticized. It's boring and depressing, but at least it's safe.
Great explanation!

I have the same problem and I think this is the main reason. For example, if I decide on taking a yoga class, immediately I start thinking, "What will I do? I don't know how I should act... I will make a fool out of myself! How will I talk to people? I have nothing to talk about!" So, of course, I end up staying away from everything because no interest is strong enough to pass this fear, especially when I haven't experienced it at all!

Additionally, I think I have a very short attention span. If I find something interesting, I get distracted after a very short time.
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Its called as Dysthymia
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it doesnt help when trying to have an interest, where others strangers or often former close people, siblings or whatever will imply or say "you suck" at it or laugh at it. or others say why even bother , you won't be able to be paid for it etc. it's like every associate is jealous or don't want one to have interests. be happy and be a winner, yet competition is all about tearing the other side down.
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I have the exact same issue. Nothing genuinely entertains me or gives me happiness. I am simply passing the time. It's why I don't have friends either--I don't know what I would talk to them about, and I would be embarrassed to tell them that I have no hobbies. Everything is boring or irritating. The only activity that I sometimes like is baking/cooking, because I'm actually making something. But that becomes annoying because I don't have the energy/money to buy cooking stuff.

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I've lost interest in almost everything. I used to pass time by playing video games for hours, but now even turning on the console feels like a chore. If I play it's usually for about ten minutes before I quit. I really wish I was passionate about something. Maybe I should start working out. At least that would be productive. Otherwise I spend most of my time listening to music and daydreaming.
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I feel like this most of the time.
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SAME! i'm so indifferent to everything. im perfectly content staying home and going on the internet. i'm just like -_- about almost everything...if other ppl are around tho, i'll fake interest and enthusiasm just to seem normal

i'm just a boring blob. i have no idea why i even exist. i'm just sorta...here
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I'm the same. I've never really had many interests - even as a kid I never wanted to do much. I get up, go to a job I hate, come home, go on the internet and browse aimlessly, maybe play the odd game or two if I can muster enough energy to start one up, and go to bed. Basically I'm either working or just killing time waiting until I have to go to work again
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