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I haven't had a *crush* on a guy in years...


Back when I was younger, I had crushes on guys...the kind where you think about them non-stop up until you fall asleep, basically you obsess over them. Not anymore. Since college, (I'm in my second year) I haven't liked a guy, haven't had a crush, not even a celebrity crush. I can point out a hot guy, but I have no burning desire to be with him. I'm just not interested in anybody (not that it would matter because I'm too shy to do anything)...Anyone else in the same position as me?
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yeah, I haven't really been interested in anybody in quite awhile either...even when I started dating my ex husband...I didn't really like him like that at first, I just wanted to stay single awhile...then eventually I was stupid & agreed to date him. I should have known that since I didn't really like him in that way to start with that he would be bad.
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Yeah, I'm the same. But I think with me, it's partly because I stop myself from liking anyone past the stage of, 'oh, he's cute...' cause I know my shyness would mean it would never lead to anything
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*Raises hand* Me!

I haven't had a crush on a guy for years, excluding famous people, but that doesn't really count anyway.
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Yup, same here. A while ago I thought maybe I would try to find someone but then I thought, nah, what's the point? I don't know if it is anxiety, low self esteem, or if I'm just meant to be single. I'm too depressed right now to be in a relationship anyway, or maybe that's the problem

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Yeah, I'm the same. But I think with me, it's partly because I stop myself from liking anyone past the stage of, 'oh, he's cute...' cause I know my shyness would mean it would never lead to anything
That's probably why, we've completely given up hope, tired up disappointment that our natural urges are just totally wiped out.
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I used to get crushes on girls all the time. It stopped once I left college, which is a good thing. Crushes are bad. For me, they we always unrealistic. Better not to have them.

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Depression makes you lethargic, even in mild depression. You develop apathy towards others.

I can relate, I havent had a crush since I was like 11.
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I haven't had a crush since I was sixteen or seventeen. The way my mind seems to work now I do not believe that I will have one again.
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I only have crushes on inanimate objects.
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I haven't had a crush in a while either. I don't even know where I would get one. I'm out of school, I don't work with a lot of people (yes, I found the perfect job for someone with SA, I work with dogs), and I don't do the whole bar/party scene. I generally don't crush on celebrities either. So I feel like I'm in such a limbo. On one hand I think I'm doing pretty well for someone with SA. I graduated college, I have a job, and I volunteer so I can hopefully get one in my field in the nearish future. On the other, I feel completely incapable of meeting new people in a social setting. It's like you go through your whole life being forced to meet people through school and when that's gone where do you go?
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I don't get crushes on real people, only celebrities and mostly dead ones, at that... the most unattainable of the unattainable.
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I still get crushes a lot, despite having severe SA. I tend to feel guilty afterwards though, thinking what a terrible person to date Iíd be. And the crushes donít tend to last long, just until the next person I find attractive comes along. Iíve only been in love or had seriously emotional feelings for one person though, and that experience ended pretty badly. Maybe in the next life, ha.

But Iím not really interested in most relationships either, since Iím sure they would not work out.
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I don't get crushes anymore, I kind of miss it. I always wondered if it was because of the meds. Many of the AD meds so many of us take cause lower or lost libido and a bit of apathy.
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I haven't had a crush on anyone in quite a while either. It's boring as **** ಠ_ಠ
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I haven't had a crush since my last year of high school, which is good! They are annoying and I'd rather live life without them :P

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