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I don't really know how to talk to people. How do I fix that?


Obviously, I'm not that good with talking to people or making friends. What do I need to do or where do I need to go help me fix that. I'm guessing I'll probably need help with body language and social skills too.
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I won't say that it's impossible to be fixed, but for sure it is very hard thing to do...

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Pay attention to how others talk to others and react to others in conversations, take note in what you think are positive traits or traits you yourself like, and try to take after them in those very traits. But do so in a way without sacrificing in not being yourself and your own personality. Find a balance between who you truly are along with the traits you like to take after from others. This will probably shape your ideal personality and identity in many ways. Practice, exposure therapy, by talking to people as much as you can as social exercise. There will be lots of trial and error as you do this. Years and years of it, maybe life long. But overtime you will gradually improve before you know it.

Enjoy any good things, even the little and menial ones, as you will never know what impending distresses could descend upon you in a moment.

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Obviously, I'm not that good with talking to people or making friends. What do I need to do or where do I need to go help me fix that. I'm guessing I'll probably need help with body language and social skills too.
At 31, I don't think the world expects you to have a ton of friends. Just one or two casual acquaintances are probably enough. My "friend detector" was always to look for people who were like me in a given situation and talk to them. Which did not end so well sometimes

But yeah. If you are at work and you see someone off in a corner who doesn't talk much, there's a good chance you can slowly get to know them and be comfortable with them and both of you can benefit from that. But it takes a little finesse and testing because sometimes that person is quiet because they're not friendly and trying to talk to them will create a bad situation.

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Best to pick and choose, but there's websites like Succeed Socially, various YouTube series, advice from organizations like Toastmasters and TED talks. Therapy can help also.
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