Yea that is the question can you simply overcome something that you cant do through "courage" or by "just doing it" as he says in the video? Kind of hard to determine where the line is between something you cant do and something you dont really want to do.
Kind of like when I was in school and had to give a presentation in class. I would have a panic attack and start trembling and shaking. Kind of involuntary physical symptoms. Could I have overcome this with growing some balls or courage? Not at the time I dont think so but if I had the proper support and encouragement at the time perhaps I could have. Hard to say
Yeah, support is really important. Like, there are a lot of things I can't bring myself to do because I have to do them alone, but if someone were with me I could do them. I need a support person, lol. My therapist actually suggested getting a support dog, but I can't afford one. And dogs kind of scare me. Maybe a support cat. But it would have to be a big one, like a lynx.
I guess the point is, if you need a support person, you just need to grow a pair, but I think that's being too dichotomous. I think the problem is that society has no way to cater to people who need a moderate amount of support. You're either completely disabled or you're completely functional, there's no in-between. But I would probably be fairly functional if I just had that support; without it, I'm completely dysfunctional. If I could get disability, I would be okay, and I could work on my writing, etc., and still be productive. It's the relentless stress of not knowing how I'm going to pay my bills that leads to all the things that make me incapable of working (insomnia, nausea, migraines, suicidality, etc.).
So I guess I feel like having to grow a pair just to function is also an indictment of culture. In many previous cultures, a person like me would simply have existed within the family economy, contributing in whatever ways I can and being supported in turn by the family. But in this culture, I don't get that luxury. My family kicked me out when I was 18 in part because it's considered completely normal for everyone to be entirely self-sufficient unless they have some kind of completely incapacitating condition like paralysis or psychosis.