Join Date: Jun 2020
Location: Somewhere, I think.
Language: English, Japanese
How to connect with people when they seem uninterested in connecting with you?
During the past week, I've been putting into practice some of the helpful advice I received about finding/being my true self. It's still an uphill battle, but I do feel the tiniest bit more comfortable being in my own skin. I've mostly been trying to communicate with others in a more honest way, rather than just agreeing with them to make them happy like I tended to do before. However, I still seem to be lacking in the department of connecting with others... With my current job, I'm not able to go out and socialize in real life right now (though I doubt I would even if I could). So, instead, I've been trying to practice talking to people online by coming up with thoughtful conversations related to whatever the topic at hand is, but this doesn't seem to be working out for me either.
For example, a YouTube creator I sub to created a video and asked for opinions on it in their Discord. Everyone else gave generic replies like "It was good" or "Nice", to which the creator actually replied with more than just a thanks. But I tried to explain in more detail the parts I liked about the vid (only a sentence or two, though), and the creator completely ignored me and proceeded to talk to the person who commented after me. I've also tried communicating by expressing my views even when they're in disagreement with someone else's. On the same Discord server, a group of people were discussing their thoughts about the hidden meaning behind the creator's latest video. I joined in the discussion by giving my thoughts about the actual meaning, even though it differed from the group's consensus. I wasn't impolite in my disagreement and even asked for their thoughts on it, yet the group just continued chatting with one another as if I hadn't said anything at all.
I try not to get offended because not everyone wants to talk to some rando online, but it happens all the time. It's just hard not to get discouraged when I try to talk with someone, just for them to ignore me and talk to other random people they don't know.
Am I doing something wrong? Should I start giving generic responses to everything? Don't get me wrong: I don't post things just for the sake of getting a response; however, it would be nice to not be ignored sometimes. I'm actually really curious about how I should interact with people and advice is greatly appreciated.
"Drip drop, try to stop the forward motion,
All heads tend to fall behind.
Wasted whethers of the which cut steeper,
Always running out of time."