Originally Posted by Cool Ice Dude55
We don't have goals in my sessions. Its literally just talking about things. Is that bad?
Personally I get a few things out of therapy:
1. My therapist is like the parent I didn't have. She guides me in certain ways, offers a perspective which I have to some degree managed to internalise (that is part of the therapy I do, though).
2. I get a mood boost from the session, usually.
3. I feel validated, listened to and not dismissed and minimised, like most other people do in my life.
4. Some sessions there are some very big shifts in my perspective, I come out and my brain "tingles", that hasn't happened for a long time, though.
So for me, personally if it's just "talking about things", or just 3 as above, that wouldn't cut it, or it might for very cheap therapy, but not for what my therapist charges. I need someone at the minimum who can offer some insight into issues, allow me to find a better perspective and who I feel is helping me to move forwards, in whatever way. I don't pay for a chat.
That being said, I feel that most of the work I can do with my current therapist has been done, almost. I see her once a month now, which kinda acts to straighten me up a bit and keep me moving forwards.
I can't speak for you, though.