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How Do You Deal With Being Disrespected


I don't care if someone doesn't like me and they don't talk to me because we don't have a lot in common etc.

But it really bothers me when it's obvious when someone doesn't like me and they are rude to me and disrespect me.

I know it's a reflection on them but it still bothers me. It makes me so anxious! Especially in a work setting. It makes me feel so horrible about myself, because why am I the only one they treat like this. What is so wrong with me.
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The correct way of dealing with it is addressing it directly and having a conversation about it. If that does nothing then taking it up to a supervisor. You dont have to put up with a toxic work environment.
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The correct way of dealing with it is addressing it directly and having a conversation about it. If that does nothing then taking it up to a supervisor. You dont have to put up with a toxic work environment.
Thanks for the advise. But the two that disrespect me are actually close to the service manager. We have a few subordinate managers and M is one of them. And she knows the service manager because they worked at another company, and he recruited her.

There is no way I can bring it up with him.

She's not bullying but there were a few instances of disrespect. I can't go to her with work stuff because she basically disregards me. I just give her any messages for her and walk away. Or if a customer wants to speak to her I will pretend she's in a meeting and give them her details.
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Thanks for the advise. But the two that disrespect me are actually close to the service manager. We have a few subordinate managers and M is one of them. And she knows the service manager because they worked at another company, and he recruited her.

There is no way I can bring it up with him.

She's not bullying but there were a few instances of disrespect. I can't go to her with work stuff because she basically disregards me. I just give her any messages for her and walk away. Or if a customer wants to speak to her I will pretend she's in a meeting and give them her details.
Is there anyone else there in authority that you could talk to or at least get on your side? My wife has had a number of instances at her work with people and before the people in authority were difficult to deal with, (apart from being fools) but now she has a couple of better people there that seem to be more intelligent and supportive.

You have my respect OP - to even be able to go to work like that I think is fantastic, I couldn't do it. Not in my present state anyway.
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By being very passive aggressive and doing it back to them
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By feeling sad about it, and putting out feelers for other options that would respect/value me.

It's not a constructive coping mechanism to be quiet and continuously run away though.
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Sorry to hear - what kind of things do they do or say to disrespect you?x

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Well, melancholyscorpio, luckily it's not prison rules where you can't let a 'dis' go 'unchecked'. Still, it may sound obvious but getting out of that situation really is the best option. You don't know if those same people who don't respect you enough to bite their tongue don't think they're clever and can get away with doing other things to make your life or work miserable. Believe me, people like to gang up on the weakest person and do horrible things because THAT'S somehow socially acceptable...I've had to deal with character assassination for instance. So, ugh, my advice is get out of the situation because the alternative (stooping to their level) isn't worth it.

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Bruh... Life isn't high school...
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Bruh... Life isn't high school...
Imo hs it's like demo version of life...

Even shy people can be sassy sometimes...
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A work environment is an important place for being disrespected, sexual harassment, murders, suicides, arguments, mass murders, and terrorist attacks, because all of those factors are part of the management business. The people who're emotionally thoughtless about their peers receives a mind from the supercomputers to follow up with the task. While the High authority NSA Software Engineers cross their arms leaning back while standing in front of the screen saying "excellent, the citizens doubts think GOD is judging their actions, not knowing that we know the grading system and the Multi-Agent Quantum A.I Computers methods of governing them.


When the supercomputers observe the male employees in their home environment masturbating to porn, the AI computers change up their work environment sexually. All you see is the female employees accidentally bending down, crossing legs, and using sex language in conversations without being aware. So the male workers can be aroused more aggressively to demonstrate sexual harassment at work.

The A.I Computers can generate sexual thoughts for designing a mentality about the female employees butt be nicely shape, pretty face, large breast and the thought about doing porn behavior with the female employees. Just like the wet dreams showing erotic behavior.

All the High Authority NSA Software Engineers can say to the people who watch porn is "How do you like the porn behavior we created for citizens to watch?" The software engineers cross their arms, because they know better than the citizens.

I recall looking at an advertisement in college talking about sexual harassment, and the reason for advertisement is that no one has their own correct mind to think about how sexual harassment ever existed.

YOU CAN'T IGNORE PEOPLE AT A JOB. YOU HAVE DEAL WITH THE REPROGRAMMED MENTALITY WORKERS FROM THE A.I COMPUTERS.

Multi-Agent Quantum AI Computers governing humanity 24/7 using Quantum Cryptography Satellites to run a thought interval to generate cryptographic keys to refresh key information into thoughts to channel the communication 24/7.

NSA Software Engineers & NASA computationally remapping buildings, jobs, relationships, wealth, education, and income using bio intelligence system to manage citizens time & events. Getting away with airplane crashes, accidents, diseases, homelessness, and suicides.
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Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow,
A poor player that strut's and fret's his hour upon the stage and is heard no more,
It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.
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I make them write an essay on what they did wrong.
Don't forget putting them in the corner or sending to their room and telling them to think about what they're have done...

Even shy people can be sassy sometimes...
I'll put drunk raccoon in my signature as well, because I CAN...
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