Re: How do you deal?
I think tomcoldaba says it well. It's like a weight off your shoulders to tell someone about the difficulties you sometimes face in social situations. You don't have to worry about whether they know you're nervous any more. You simply stand up and speak the truth.
I've only told a couple friends (both female, as I feel more comfortable chatting more deeply with my female friends) about how I experience a lot of social anxiety. I'm not sure how well one of them understands me, and I think she might be misunderstanding me with some of the comments she made (referring to my not liking people, which isn't true). I guess I should probably clarify it for her a bit more, but I don't want to spend too much time on it either.
My other friend knows that I can be nervous, and she was a friend to me in college when I could be quite a downer. I look back with almost an embarrassment toward how I was too selfishly negative around her. I didn't tell her I "have social anxiety disorder" or anything so formal, but she knew over time that I exhibited anxious tendencies.
I suppose if you really get to know someone, they're probably going to know something's up whether you officially say it or not. If someone doesn't know me very well though, I have learned over the years to fake my way into appearing as though I'm more comfortable than I might actually feel. Surface conformism.
I'd again like to reiterate how glad I am to see that IvanaDantas empathizes with her fiance and supports him throughout all these silly anxious thoughts/experiences. SA is one of the most ridiculous experiences sometimes, and it often makes me laugh with how insane some of the situations can be (think Seinfeldian paranoia at times, which really cracks me up).
He ran because it grounded him in basics. There was both life and death in it; it was unadulterated by media hype, trivial cares, political meddling...It was all joy and woe, hard as a diamond; it made him weary beyond comprehension. But it also made him free.