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post #1 of 14 (permalink) Old 09-21-2020, 07:39 PM Thread Starter
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How Closed Off Are You?


I'm very much so at this stage.

I don't bother trying to talk to anyone unless I have to. I keep to myself.

I'm tired of being rejected.
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Super duper closed off. I don't think you could eke a Hi from me if you were the friendliest person on the planet. Maybe if you were an unassuming kid who waves at people. Or a curious baby. That's about it.
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To an unhealthy degree. The alternative is being ostracized and made fun of ( Due to social awkwardness and nervous mannerisms ) so I think it's wise for me to maintain impenetrable walls in social settings.

It's mind boggling how people who are held in high regard and considered "nice" by everyone can easily get away with blatantly bullying the weird person that no one likes essentially showing their true colors and everyone just turns a blind eye to it. Humans are remarkable.
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I wouldn't say I'm closed off, people just don't seem to want to come in. I blame my high functioning autism for either intimidating people or being too weird for their liking.


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To an unhealthy degree. The alternative is being ostracized and made fun of ( Due to social awkwardness and nervous mannerisms ) so I think it's wise for me to maintain impenetrable walls in social settings.

It's mind boggling how people who are held in high regard and considered "nice" by everyone can easily get away with blatantly bullying the weird person that no one likes essentially showing their true colors and everyone just turns a blind eye to it. Humans are remarkable.
How true!

It amazes me how people blindly follow the bully.

I've been singled out at every workplace by a person who is friendly to everyone and disrespectful towards me.

That person would bit.ch about me and people just believe them. Even though they know I'm a nice person.
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post #10 of 14 (permalink) Old 09-22-2020, 02:29 AM
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Yeah. I'm closed off from others, only because they decide to be closed off from me, and only me. Due to how pathetic and unrewarding I am to even interact with. I finally decided to be considerate and unselfish and cut myself off from others. To spare them of my presence.

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Enjoy any good things, even the little and menial ones, as you will never know what impending distresses could descend upon you in a moment.
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Not at all. I'm actually putting in quite a bit of effort to talk to people. While I do get tired and run off back to my cave to recharge, talking to people has been rewarding. It helps that I'm much more relaxed about the outcome than I was even a year ago.

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I'm not a closed off person at all. I'm usually pretty open with people. I do avoid certain situations - but when I'm actually talking to people I can be pretty outgoing and friendly.
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post #13 of 14 (permalink) Old 09-22-2020, 07:47 AM
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With this COVID I furthered close myself off. I have not been into the office during normal operating time since Apr 1st. I only go in like at 5 am to do things I canít from home. Then the same with getting groceries. I am not doing much socializing outside my immediate family. I always been a loner even when I was a small child. No one really like me after they get to know me. They discover I am a broken person and they donít want someone like this to deal with.

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troll: three feet, man!
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troll: no school, man, it was sweet
yooper: you closed school for three feet of snow?!?!??!?
troll: you like excessive punctuation, don't you?
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post #14 of 14 (permalink) Old 09-23-2020, 07:17 PM
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Well I haven't really successfully integrated new people into my life for about 15 or so years so I'm pretty closed off. I can't carry on a conversation beyond simple "yes" or "no" answers (unless I'm pressed to do so which most people don't have the patience to conversate with me at my pace). I think most people don't mind me that much at this point, but I'm not so sure they like me that much either. Even if I managed to learn small talk, I'm not so sure that would fix my fundamental inability to connect with most people. I think I actually operate at an intensity that most people aren't prepared for anyway even if my shell collapsed and I "opened up" more.

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