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post #41 of 49 (permalink) Old 11-01-2019, 12:59 AM
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I avoid making eye contact most of the time because it just makes people uncomfortable and some people seem to take it as an invitation to harass me. I'm okay with it in 1-to-1 conversation, but I mostly talk to cashiers/service people, and they mostly don't even look at me, so it's not really a problem.

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Never been able to do it. Our noses usually get in the way.
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Not good I actually do try to look at people in the eye but then they look away and it’s gets awkward so now when I talk to people I kinda give eye contact but not really 😕
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If I have to make eye contact, I need to only give eye contact for a few seconds and then look away for awhile, in order to talk and listen. If not and I maintain constant eye contact, I will have trouble with active listening and also convey my thoughts due to anxiety. Unless in professional situations, where I know I have to maintain more constant eye contact. In those situations, I force myself to, which oddly I do fine in those situations. Casual social interactions, I cannot do this. Especially with people I know better ironically I will be worse at maintaining eye contact. I think it's because people I know better, I am better at reading their eye and facial expression in how they think about me. Strangers or people I know less well, I don't. Thus I have less eye contact anxiety with them.


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post #46 of 49 (permalink) Old 11-06-2019, 09:04 PM
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i always think i'm fine with it until after the conversation i realize i have no idea what the person looks like cause i didn't look at them long enough
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post #47 of 49 (permalink) Old 11-06-2019, 09:10 PM
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It's no problem at all

I only go out at night, and like Wyclef I wear my sunglasses ;-)
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post #48 of 49 (permalink) Old 11-07-2019, 07:32 PM
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I'm awful at eye contact. People return a pained squint if I look them in the eyes too long, which results in me projecting all my insecurities onto them thereby compelling me to look away. I'm not entirely sure how to get over this problem. I've tried just about everything.
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post #49 of 49 (permalink) Old 11-08-2019, 10:29 PM
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I also noticed if there is a bit of Adrenalin the eye contact issue goes away. Like at work if something a bit serious is going on I give eye contact very effectively. But it depends on the context.
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