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August is the 10 year high school reunion party. It's at a park.

I accepted the Facebook Group invite.

The admin who messaged me is a classmate I have no idea is. Don't recognize the face or name at all. My friend says she was part of the student council. Evidently she didn't do a great job on it if I don't know who she is.

I was scrolling thru the group members & it's unsurprising seeing so many married & employed w/ great jobs.

My friend wants me to go. Honestly, there's no one I really want to see again. Y'all remember that neighbor who's parents told mine I needed help & caused us to move away? He was part of my class & I'd rather not see him again, plus a horde of others. I had enough of their bull**** in high school & would rather not watch them have fun like I watched them in high school.

High school screwed me over. Outside of my friend, there were maybe 10 or so others who'd talk to me. But they never 'formally accepted' me and I remained an outcast.

Anyone ever go to a high school reunion?

The world is quiet here.
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Nope. Dropped out of highschool and got my GED. Would be beyond humiliating to attend. It's not that I dislike my old classmates but I'd rather not see them all successful meanwhile I'm a cave troll.
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No I never went to one & I probably never will, it was not a happy time for me.






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I never wanna see those people in person again lol
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I never wanna see those people in person again lol
What did they do to you ?






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What did they do to you ?
It just wasn't a good time. Everyone formed cliques. They were really judgmental. Just overall not good people.

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Either my graduating class never had a reunion or I was never invited.

None of the "friends" I had in school were ever interested in keeping in touch with me, anyway. Which is especially sad, because I've never made any friends IRL outside the school environment.

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It just wasn't a good time. Everyone formed cliques. They were really judgmental. Just overall not good people.

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Exactly.

There were the usual dicks, but for the most part I was ignored, not part of any clique. I was an outcast among outcasts.

Someone should've had the heart to come & be my friend. Not just sit w/ me at lunch a couple days of the week, but truly accept & invite me. Only one person wanted to be my real friend (& we're still friends to this day) out of 400 some. Only one out of 400 or so. Only one had a heart. How is that possible?

'Just overall not good people' is exactly how I'd say it. They would've had to have changed radically since then for me to say otherwise. & considering I saw no evidence of a heart from most of them, I doubt they did. You just don't acquire a heart unless you go thru radical life events. Even my best friend in elementary & middle school abandoned me in high school.

Going to a reunion would be pointless. Half of them probably wouldn't remember me.

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Either my graduating class never had a reunion or I was never invited.

None of the "friends" I had in school were ever interested in keeping in touch with me, anyway. Which is especially sad, because I've never made any friends IRL outside the school environment.
I am sorry, that's really sad. Maybe things will get better & you'll meet some friends IRL?

I was only invited b/c my one HS friend I'm still best friends w/ asked me to ask them to be invited. (Which shows me that they didn't get a heart)

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Exactly.

There were the usual dicks, but for the most part I was ignored, not part of any clique. I was an outcast among outcasts.

Someone should've had the heart to come & be my friend. Not just sit w/ me at lunch a couple days of the week, but truly accept & invite me. Only one person wanted to be my real friend (& we're still friends to this day) out of 400 some. Only one out of 400 or so. Only one had a heart. How is that possible?

'Just overall not good people' is exactly how I'd say it. They would've had to have changed radically since then for me to say otherwise. & considering I saw no evidence of a heart from most of them, I doubt they did. You just don't acquire a heart unless you go thru radical life events. Even my best friend in elementary & middle school abandoned me in high school.

Going to a reunion would be pointless. Half of them probably wouldn't remember me.
Why do you think they didn't like you? -just trying to help
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Why do you think they didn't like you? -just trying to help
I was an outcast.

There were 'cliques', but at the same time the cliques sometimes still came together under one banner.

I wasn't part of any clique and never was united w/ them under one banner.

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I had no high school reunion but even if there was one I don't think it's worth going to bc I had no good friends or a friend that would accept me for the social anxiety I had. I didn't pay attention to finding good friends when I was really young, didn't know how important that was for the future. I went to a judgmental snobby Middle school which I didn't handle the right way or have the right thoughts and that's why now it seems like my social anxiety is just stuck there but it probably can still be improved or recovered. The good thing though is that my social anxiety is better than before but still. Now I wouldn't fit in enough with my elementary school friends due to my mental health issues.
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Reunions seem to be losing ground, due to people being able to connect through social media. At one time, they were useful for catching up with old friends, but it is not really necessary anymore. I've never been interested in attending my own reunions, in fact I didn't even want to go to my graduation ceremony, as far as I was concerned I was only there for my parents. It is funny how people always used to tell me I would miss school when it was done, I don't in the least bit.


I did go to my wife's reunion, not out of a desire, but because she asked me to. At first was very uncomfortable, and I ended up taking a walk around the streets outside for a while, only to come back after everyone was drinking. For some reason, I feel more comfortable around people who are drinking, I think people usually are a bit cooler when slightly inebriated. After that point, it was not as bad, they were all dancing and being dorks, so I felt okay being the silent one.

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I was an outcast.

There were 'cliques', but at the same time the cliques sometimes still came together under one banner.

I wasn't part of any clique and never was united w/ them under one banner.
Aw sorry to hear that. Usually people who talk a lot seem to have friends but you never know if they feel like they really have friends. You seem like the kind of person who would talk a lot and have friends. I was looked down upon by people in Middle school. It was a hard time, I was growing up and felt that clothes that looked good on me before didn't look good on me anymore, that I didn't really know how to dress nice or cool (at that time), got a really bad haircut later that ruined the texture of my hair bc the seemingly inexperienced hair-dresser used a scraper on my hair but after my hair texture recovered a lot but it's still not like before. I look better now and try to dress like what is deemed nice and popular, now I think that is the way, nice.
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My 10 year will be coming up in a few years, but I have zero interest. I didn't exist in high school.

And if I'm feeling nosy, I can always just check on my old classmates on Facebook.
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I went to mine last year with my twin, stayed an hour it was awkward but I wanted to say in the future at least I went .

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The only reunions I force myself to go to are family reunions and that's also very rare.
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I received an invitation for my 10-year reunion, but I didn't go because it was literally in the middle of my two year unemployment. I ended up going to visit my mother, who at the time, lived an hour away.


Apparently, there was never another reunion and this is year 27 for me!


There isn't a reason for me to go.

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I received an invitation for my 10-year reunion, but I didn't go because it was literally in the middle of my two year unemployment. I ended up going to visit my mother, who at the time, lived an hour away.


Apparently, there was never another reunion and this is year 27 for me!


There isn't a reason for me to go.

Huzzah! We both graduated in '93!

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