Getting things done with Communication.
This is an idea that has come to mind, that people are able to get others to do things just through words. I don't really get how this happens. It comes up in other places many areas of life, but it was the most clear when I've tutored kids.
I've had to help kids that are mostly well behaved, but sometimes I have to work with troublemakers. Some people can get these kids to respond just by the force of their voice. It's actually an action, they are using their voice to get the child to act properly. When I speak this never happens, I can't say things forcefully enough. I don't use my words as a tool.
But this idea is more broad than this. Lets say you are bargaining for something, in this situation what you say is a tool to get them to lower their price. You'll say things in just the right way to convince them to do something.
When asking for help, you have to explain what kind of help you need... and why they should give it to you. If you are unable to explain this, you may get help... or maybe the wrong kind of help.
This concept seems to be the cornerstone of 'networking'... and I just can't seem to get anything done.
The strangest thing, it never even occurs to me... until someone explains it... that I can actually get people to help me or do anything. It seems such a foreign concept to ask of people, and they help you. Or that you can convince someone of something.
Anyone else understand what I'm trying to say here... using their communication as tools? If you understand, is there anyway to improve?