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Gaming and not being into it


Never really got why I've never been into gaming. From what I've seen it's actually a big part of the lives of people with SA. Sometimes I feel like such an outcast that I don't even seem to be like my kind(SA suffering folks). Not that I care all that much.
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You shouldn't feel that the "norm" for people who have is SA is for them to all be into gaming. I don't even believe that to be true for all the guys here.

I myself am not a "hardcore gamer" and only really get a kick out of a few games. I never got into the whole "console war" thing much like I never got into the "iOS VS Android" thing.

Today, Sony and Xbox pretty much offer the same thing aside from their exclusives. The same can be said about Android and iOS. They do the same things but have minor niche/unique products that come with varying offerings all while packing in altering quality for the standard/core aspects. I've never seen a product that's been able to check all the boxes across the board and I only expect that to continue.

I don't think casting a blanket statement like that would work in our case (not attacking you), so I would raise my chin and recognize that we're all pretty diverse in our hobbies.

You'll fit right in just by having SA. If there isn't a thread for a particular interest you have, perhaps posting one yourself would gain the interest of those who share that common interest.

I'll stop saying interest now.

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You shouldn't feel that the "norm" for people who have is SA is for them to all be into gaming. I don't even believe that to be true for all the guys here.

I myself am not a "hardcore gamer" and only really get a kick out of a few games. I never got into the whole "console war" thing much like I never got into the "iOS VS Android" thing.

Today, Sony and Xbox pretty much offer the same thing aside from their exclusives. The same can be said about Android and iOS. They do the same things but have minor niche/unique products that come with varying offerings all while packing in altering quality for the standard/core aspects. I've never seen a product that's been able to check all the boxes across the board and I only expect that to continue.

I don't think casting a blanket statement like that would work in our case (not attacking you), so I would raise my chin and recognize that we're all pretty diverse in our hobbies.

You'll fit right in just by having SA. If there isn't a thread for a particular interest you have, perhaps posting one yourself would gain the interest of those who share that common interest.

I'll stop saying interest now.
So you're actually a gamer too then. I wanna see if there are other members here who aren't.
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I'm not a gamer either, although I look stereotypically like one lol.

I mean the last console I owned was a Sega Genesis, and that was way back in the day. I just never really got into it. Plus, the graphics always made me nauseous.

I feel you though about being an outcast. I often think that I'm missing out on something, since everyone seems to be so into it, not just nerds.
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I haven’t really gamed in over a decade. I literally could not tell you the last time I played a computer or console game, it just doesn’t interest me at all. It does suck though because it’s a big factor and pop culture talking point in many peoples lives
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I don't think that SA can be reason to be into gaming. But on the other hand, it can be one of the reasons which could lead into gaming...

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So you're actually a gamer too then. I wanna see if there are other members here who aren't.
I technically am one, but I don't do it often. Ergo, it's not the only thing I'm interested in or spend my time doing. I do it more for the stories than anything (i.e. when I'm bored).

I do other stuff when I'm not doing that though, just saying....

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You're in the luck. It's a hard habit to break, and a major distraction. When I'm playing a game that pulls me into its own world well, I don't care how I do in the real world anymore, and everything starts to fall apart.

If you did want to get into gaming, you probably could, it's often just a matter of working out what type of games appeal to you. But I'd say keeping out of it is a good thing. Because ultimately you will have to exist in the real world, and coming to it from a gamer high can be rough. Then again, there are people who can play and not let games take over their life, as well.

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You're in the luck. It's a hard habit to break, and a major distraction. When I'm playing a game that pulls me into its own world well, I don't care how I do in the real world anymore, and everything starts to fall apart.

If you did want to get into gaming, you probably could, it's often just a matter of working out what type of games appeal to you. But I'd say keeping out of it is a good thing. Because ultimately you will have to exist in the real world, and coming to it from a gamer high can be rough. Then again, there are people who can play and not let games take over their life, as well.
The only games I played were boxing and UFC games and I was naturally good at them because I have an actual interest IRL in those sport, but even then I would lose interest after about an hour.

I have other bad habits I can't break though, but yeah I can't imagine something more distracting than a gaming addiction.
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I'd agree it's good to stay out of gaming. I had never got a console since the first xbox, but I've done more than my share of pc gaming. rpg's, simulators, even if I don't do any of the mmo's today, there's too many games that are a waste of time. And I still am an outcast with the games I play, mostly simulators while the "normies" are playing overwatch, fortnite, etc. or whatever big thing next. It can be assuaging for some depressed with SA initially or for a while, but it can be like a candy fix for too long. Supposedly in the decades before personal computers and gaming, people did more down to earth and handy hobbies, such as drawing, carpentry, electronics kits, gardening, painting, photography, etc. or I guess other vices such as gambling, cards, pool , whatever. But now it's mostly seemingly a corporatized addiction fueled industry with gaming. Then there's tv, but I guess there's youtube now or roku/netflix/etc. instead of "flipping" channels on a rabbit ear tv.
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From about 1995-2003 all i did was play video games, I mean I probably played 40 or 50 hours a week and playing 12 hours straight was not completely out of bounds for me back then.
I played every type of game from 2-D platformers to 3-d platformers to third person shooters to racing games to adventure games to puzzle games to survival horror games. I beat about 50 NES games, 30 or 40 Racing games. I beat almost all of the games on hard mode (single player) or 100%. Around 2003 i started going to pro sports games and went to about 900 games since then.

I think i was such a loser and outcast in high school that in my early 20's i just decided to try to never leave my room and did not want to face the world. That is how the video game addiction started. I did like the games on some level and it was fun for the most part but if you are playing all night dehydrated and exhausted and hungry to beat an impossible level it is unhealthy. Those years i mentioned had probably the best games ever, Playstation 1, Nintendo 64, Playstation 2, Game Boy Advance, Gamecube. The games did not get better after around 2003, the graphics got way better but there was no originality in the games anymore, you had no replay value, and there was "hand-holding" where you did not have to tear your hair out or break controllers by not knowing what to do, they made it obvious in newer games, and you often had teams in recent games, and it was rarely you alone in a threatening universe, it just became a boring experience with annoying team members either getting in your way or doing most of the work and a million cutscenes and voice actors.

In 2003 i wanted to go to one Knicks game and then go back and hide in my apartment, I always had generalized anxiety. i ended up going to like 500 games with that friend, who was basically just a drinking buddy, but if i had not gone to that game, I could have just never left and camped out in a cave and never stopped playing video games.

With video games, you either are a casual gamer or a hardcore gamer, there really is no in between. If you can play a game for an hour and put it down for 4 or 5 days, you are basically a casual gamer. If you try to beat a game on hard mode and play up to 12 hours a day until you beat a level or game, you are hardcore. I have an addictive personality with everything. I can't just start a game and put it down after an hour. I also find challenges in a game and try to find every secret or beat every secret level etc. But I have barely played since 2003.

I think guys with social anxiety are a huge percentage of gamers. It is something you can do alone that you can control a lot, and escape into a world, in TV or Movies you have no control, in a video game, you are in control of your destiny. I am old now and just have no patience, when i come home from a pro sports game, I am going alone now, I dont have the energy to play a game and find strategy guides, I partly am too lazy and partly don't care, which is exactly how i feel about dating now also.
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I use to enjoy it much more when I was younger. Eventually I stopped playing games completely when they start feeling like a chore rather than enjoyment. Mostly because I lack the motivation, energy or likely just more stuff in my mind to be able to put myself into the fantasy tunnel vision mindset to really enjoy them. That said I still envy people, especially the older people who are able to still have the motivation and energy to remain being an avid gamer like this. It really must make their lives happier to have something to enjoy at the end of the day or in their downtime.


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I used to play a lot of video games until recently, when I'd had enough. I genuinely enjoyed gaming and loved it. But some people, it seems, play games as a means to escape the reality, as opposed to doing it as a hobby they genuinely enjoy.

I don't think people with SA are any more prone to gaming than other people; well, maybe by a bit, given that they tend to be more introverted, spend more time thinking about things and, hence, may be more interested in fantasy worlds.
People with SA, however, can be very prone to escapist/avoidance behaviors, and gaming provides a convenient outlet.

Not that gaming is a special kind of escapism. People use alcohol, drugs, porn, TV series, books, cigarettes, food as a way to escape reality. But gaming seems to be one of the more natural ones for SA sufferers, since it allows them to, in some way, experience socialisation and feel like a very powerful character of a fantasy world, while remaining the same simple human in real life. Most other escapist behaviors mostly dull one's focus, while video games redirect it to a more immediately satisfying channel.
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I used to play a lot of video games until recently, when I'd had enough. I genuinely enjoyed gaming and loved it. But some people, it seems, play games as a means to escape the reality, as opposed to doing it as a hobby they genuinely enjoy.

I don't think people with SA are any more prone to gaming than other people; well, maybe by a bit, given that they tend to be more introverted, spend more time thinking about things and, hence, may be more interested in fantasy worlds.
People with SA, however, can be very prone to escapist/avoidance behaviors, and gaming provides a convenient outlet.

Not that gaming is a special kind of escapism. People use alcohol, drugs, porn, TV series, books, cigarettes, food as a way to escape reality. But gaming seems to be one of the more natural ones for SA sufferers, since it allows them to, in some way, experience socialisation and feel like a very powerful character of a fantasy world, while remaining the same simple human in real life. Most other escapist behaviors mostly dull one's focus, while video games redirect it to a more immediately satisfying channel.
Not everything that's done for enjoyment is a way to escape reality though.
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I used to play video games often as a kid and into my teenage years. Really looking back though, after about middle school, I don't think I played as often. I remember during college sometimes I'd play them alone when I was home for the summer, but I never really got into playing alone again. During college and my early working years I tended to play games like Super Smash Brothers at my friends' house when we'd have a few people come over and I did enjoy that and Guitar Hero. Also I played Mario Kart some too. To me it was enjoyable doing those games with others, but sometimes it would get a little boring.

My friends also got me some online games and I tried it for a while, but I never really enjoyed computer games because I felt I was tied up to my computer and had to be on them when my friends were, and I'd start getting bored. To me the internet was better, but I think it also causes me to get bored quickly, because I usually keep multiple tabs open and switch sites while I'm on.

I think if I lived alone I could probably enjoy them more, but here I'm often being interrupted. Plus with working, I think I tend to enjoy doing interactive things and other hobbies that I feel are a better use of my free time.

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I am too lazy to multiple quote people but it only makes you happy if you finally beat a level or beat a game. The frustration involved is sometimes not worth the hassle. I beat over 190 games back then and there were about 10 games I got to the final level and never beat. Try investing 50 or 70 hours into a single game and not being able to beat it. I was playing most games in single player on the hardest difficulty then but whatever. So if you do get past a tough level, you feel great, but what about people who stay up all night and don't eat or drink for 10,20 or even 30 hours because they are that glued to the screen?

And like anything, if you are playing a great game, you can't really get bored. The problem is that to find a great game, you might have to try 5,10 or even more games until you find a game you like. The only way it makes sense to try that many is if you have a flash cart for a portable system and download tons of free games or if you buy old games for outdated systems. It is an expensive as hell hobby if you are buying new games for $59.99 hoping to play a great game and one in 5 games is even worth playing.

The only other way it can get boring is if you are older and just have no patience or energy to do much anymore, which is kind of where I am at. I bought about 15 games and have barely played in 6 months. I have a business selling video game ads and magazines on ebay and working like 50 hour weeks on it and i am going to 80 pro sports games a year now, when I get home if i am not shipping something I just watch HBO, Showtime Starz or reality TV, no patience to play a game and have to start reading strategy guides
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