My friend from college has an interview in my city Tuesday so wants to stay Tuesday thru Sunday.
He's a good friend and we were roommates in college, but this is making me extremely anxious. Maybe it's due to my SAD, but growing up I rarely had a friend over. There was always something about it that made me anxious, and needless to say, that's carried over to adult-hood.
Reasons I'm anxious:
1.) A week feels like a long time. I will be at work during the day. He will be at my place during the day when I'm not home. He's the kind of person who's respectful of a person's belongings, but it's still just
(I guess I view my home as a part of me, like something safe and personal and private too.)
2.) I will have to provide food for him. Yes, we/he would probably go out a few times, but still, that means I have to buy all the food at home and prepare it at home. I'm sure he'd help prepare it, but still, it's a responsibility.
3.) The Sunday after he says he'll leave, I will be on vacation. I have family that will be visiting. I know he will want to stay that next week. ('The more the merrier, the longer the better' is pretty much his attitude towards social situations).
This is the biggest reason I'm anxious about it!!! He's the kind of person who tries to drag these kinds of things as long as possible. I went to his place once, was supposed to be for a couple days, ended up being a week. A friend visited him once, was supposed to be for a week, ended up being 3
4.) This one's kind of stupid but I have a condo and he's dirt-poor. It makes me feel guilty and previleaged.
---I'm also scared it will make him want to be a roommate.
(We roomed in college and it was fun, but I guess I was ok with it in college because I knew it wasn't going to be that long and just a couple semesters)
5.) He informed me yesterday. I feel like he should've given me more notice.
IDK, TBH I've given excuses in the past when people want to visit. This whole situation is just making me feel like doom is coming.
But I'm looking forward to my cousin visiting my place, and loved having a friend over earlier this year, and was asking another friend to visit a couple weeks ago.
So what's everyone's thoughts on this? Any advice? Tips?
Do you guys get anxious having guests over, even good friends?
How often do you have friends/guests over?