I have missed out on alot of things for sure, everything from going out at the weekends to attending family functions, the latter has more meaning obviously and I regret not being there at weddings or funerals but I try reason with it and tell myself 'when I'm better...'.
In comparison, holidays don't seem as urgent or relevant, my family go maybe twice in a good year to Italy where my step dad's family live but I know whatever fun it could bring would be severely compromised by s.a as usual, starting from the moment we pile in the taxi to the airport.
I don't regret fun activities I've declined but I do regret having to turn down well paying jobs due to s.a. With the leisure time, thats unstructured and fun is important but it's an afterthought, I'd rather get the work in place and after a hard day it would give me good reason to celebrate.
For you the social life is a priority, as you say in some cases just for the sake of being involved. I agree, there's nothing worse than seeing pictures and hearing accounts of fun times-which are things that really cement friendships-and then feeling a sense of dissappointment that you weren't there.
I think it's a good sign that you feel that way cos however much it dogs you thats the feeling that'll motivate you, although with s.a it's not like you can just go join in if your a bad case like me.
Thats why you shouldn't get caught up in Facebook, it's a tough competition even for the most popular people, thats whats driven some to staging photos. I think it was originally meant to be just a directory for looking up old friends or keeping in touch with new ones but it's become like a school reunion from hell.
Also, if you're going to be included you might as well enjoy your time among friends or else it defeats the object and that means you need the right friends not just follow the in crowd.
The biggest mistake you can make in life is to be continually afraid of making one-Elbert Hubbard