Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Orange County, CA
So if I'm understanding you right, you're not sure if you don't want to change because you want to rebel against culture and what's "cool", or because you're afraid of people noticing that you've changed. If you come to the realization that you want to change some aspects of your look or personality, but haven't done so because of fear of what other people think, then I challenge you to examine that irrational fear and do something about it. Who cares if people notice that you've changed something about yourself? It doesn't matter what they think! It really is no big deal at all. But, if it is a positive change, then other people may respond to you in a better way anyway! So go ahead and change whatever you want to change. It doesn't have to be drastic or all at once. You can take gradual steps to change. That's what I have done. Whenever I have made changes to my clothing/hair style, personality, etc. they have always been very slow and gradual. But you should go ahead and do whatever it is you want to do. You are entitled to look, act, speak, etc however you want. You are not to be held accountable to anyone. Good luck!