(Please I know it's long - If so just skip at the end for solution)
Hello guys, ok I will save you 100$ Ahaha
I am 19 years old, and I noticed the exact same situation that you said.
It is very
embarrassing. On the top of that I have a student job
( for 3 years now at a fast food customer service
- So you could imagine)
The first time I ever noticed that twitch is when I had to took the graduation picture, after it came back this year, when I had a stressful situation with a costumer)
*I am also an actor so I deal with camera and photo shoot so this stress facial tics ( because I want to look good) .
But listen guys here is the part :
We people who do have this facial twitches are very self conscious about what other think of us
and how I look ect.
(optional : For my personal life, people who were jealous of me called me ugly and other hurtful things but I transform into a bombshell (model/Gym) but I sadly became to self aware about myself)
I then decided to call the college psychologist and talk about it and look what it is :
"People donít care about you. This isn't because people are mean or hurtful, but simply because they are mostly focused on themselves. Consider this hypothetical pie-chart showing the variety of thoughts a typical person has:
In this example, 60% of thoughts are self-directed. My goals. My problems. My feelings. Another 30% are directed towards relationships, but how they affect me. What does Julie think of me? How will boss evaluate my performance in the next review? Do my friends like me or see me as irritating?
Only 10% in this model is time spent in empathy
. Empathy is the rare event where one person actually feels the emotions, problems and perspective of another person. Instead of asking what Julie thinks of me, I ask what is Julie thinking.
Within that 10%, most people then divide attention between hundreds of other people they know. As a result, you would occupy a fraction of a percentage in most peoples minds, and only a couple percentage points in a deeply bonded relationship.
Even if you are in another persons thoughts, it is how your relationship affects them, not you.
What does this mean?
Embarrassment doesn't make a lot of sense. Since others are only focusing a small portion of there thoughts onto judging you, your self-judgement is overwhelmingly larger.
People don't notice this how bad as we do, I have two of my friends who have tourette syndrome , but I don't notice.
People don't notice as bad as we know, they might not even know we have those facial tics.
TO GET CURED
You need to not avoid social situation.You need to go in them
and even if you have your facial twitch NOT CARE ABOUT IT
( even do it's hard) because if you care about it it will create anxiety and anxiety and stress start those twitches, so by not worrying about it ( IT WILL HELP A LOT)
And even if you have those nervous twitches during this situation think about this :
- Why does this matter what other people think about my twitch ?
- Why do I care so much of what people think about me ?
People are VERY SELF CENTERED
people won't even notice those facial twitches because they are SELF CENTERED ON THEM
So why care about it ?
Every time I have those breakdown I think about that.
And it helps
I have another anointment with the psychologist and he will give me other methods so I will share that will you guys later.
I took an appointment at the acupuncture because it help with anxiety and stress = Help facial twitches.
HOPE IT HELP GUY, I LOVE YOU AND STAY STRONG IT WILL HELP