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post #1 of 8 (permalink) Old 08-23-2019, 08:27 AM Thread Starter
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extreme fear of being judged as rich


I am really anxious and nervous all the time because i have a hard time talking about my self. I tend to try to hide things about myself due to fear people will think i an rich. for example: -going to a private high school (it was a religious one but still) -having siblings in the USa. one of them with a phd. scared people will judge me for my brother having done a phd inthe usa and think i am rich - telling people what my parents do ( own a small business) -other things like travelling and places i have been

I have also never told some people i have a sister. I am afraid they will be mad at me for never telling them this

I cant keep going like this. At work is the worst. I dont know what to do
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post #2 of 8 (permalink) Old 08-23-2019, 03:24 PM
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I can see why that's a tricky situation for you - not everyone looks kindly upon people with money! I think the best way is to tweak the words to make them more generic - instead of saying a private religious high school, saying 'high school' or 'religious high school' is good enough for most situations, as it's unlikely that people will interrogate you on the cost of your education! Most people (in my experience anyways) don't see a PhD as a sign of wealth, but intelligence - there are many funding grants and scholarships for PhDs, so many assume that it's all funded by a grant. Just telling someone that your brother has a PhD will make them think your brother is smart and well-educated, rather than rich! Tweaking the way you talk about yourself I think can hide that side if you don't want to show it to everyone

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post #3 of 8 (permalink) Old 08-26-2019, 10:04 AM Thread Starter
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thank you for the reply its just that i am really scared people will google.my brother
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Hey dude this isn't the first time you've made a thread like this .... have you tried seeking some form of therapy to find out the root cause of this anxiety?


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i tried therapy but i am stoll really anxious about this
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you could start revealing the info in other ways - on facebook, etc.

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i tried therapy but i am stoll really anxious about this
What mkes you anxious about it?

What do you think would happen if they were to judge you?


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Hey dude this isn't the first time you've made a thread like this .... have you tried seeking some form of therapy to find out the root cause of this anxiety?
I think he went to one but couldn't tell him about this.

I don't really know what you want to do. Do you want to tell them or not or you don't know ?
If you could answer this question, you will make it easier for people to help. And as I said before you only have two options either you are going to tell them or not.
Another thing your brain won't go from being very anxious to be very cool about it maybe unless you eat some drugs. Also if you can write about your thought process when you think about a solution for this problem maybe that also help us to understand how you think.
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