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post #21 of 47 (permalink) Old 11-18-2019, 10:35 PM
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Its not during normal interactions, its more when i see pretty girls in public. I tend to wonder if i look attractive to them or not.
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post #22 of 47 (permalink) Old 11-18-2019, 10:51 PM
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post #23 of 47 (permalink) Old 11-19-2019, 03:01 PM
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I also get really uncomfortable and anxious and act sort of strange in groups of people. Especially if it's a work meeting where we all have to speak. I would seriously rather die a million horrible deaths than do that sh*t.
Me too. Hate that.
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post #24 of 47 (permalink) Old 11-21-2019, 09:31 AM
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post #25 of 47 (permalink) Old 11-22-2019, 09:00 AM
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The feeling that others are judging me and really want to be somewhere else or talking with someone else. I often cut the conversation short because I feel they want to get away from me.
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post #26 of 47 (permalink) Old 11-22-2019, 06:48 PM
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Kind of all of the above but stuttering is the central villain
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hating myself in how it relates to other people. I like myself when i'm alone, but i hate myself and how i am with/related to people

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Freezing up, not having anything to say, mind goes blank. Have odd mannerisms so people look at me confused and don't understand why I act strange.
Tend to say the wrong thing or cut conversations short. Then you add bad looks, being overweight and dressing bad, this makes people unfriendly.

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post #29 of 47 (permalink) Old 11-23-2019, 05:39 PM
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Awkward staring, not talking enough or saying the right things. Also not talking loud enough so people ask me to repeat it
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post #30 of 47 (permalink) Old 11-26-2019, 11:38 PM
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General fear of speaking, especially if more than one person is listening. Having nothing to talk about, no interesting stories to tell, etc, because I never do anything and haven't in close to 20 years. So coming across as boring. I think I have off-putting expressions and body language that make people uncomfortable, even though I don't mean to. I don't speak well and don't know how to respond to what someone is asking or telling me due to general abysmal social skills.

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post #31 of 47 (permalink) Old 11-27-2019, 07:48 AM
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Just being able to have a conversation. It is quite hard for me to start and carry one. I'm mostly a listener. Maybe it is because I do not know much. I know what I know. The usual causal talk.
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post #32 of 47 (permalink) Old 11-28-2019, 05:01 AM
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I guess the pressure that I need to "do" something - have a reaction or response of some sort. It's very, very forced and usually leaves me feeling unsatisfied. I also tend to betray who I really am in the process.

I gotta learn to be genuine and accept the fact that I don't need everyone to enjoy my company.

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post #33 of 47 (permalink) Old 11-28-2019, 06:05 AM
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Hard to say, because over the last months everything changed significantly and I don't really struggle anymore. I'd say that my main problems are talking over the phone and socialising in a large group.

With the former, I worry about not being able to catch what the other person says, I just get so many clues from body language. People sound different over the phone. I'm sure I'm imagining this, but when they answer, people often sound taken aback and I misinterpret it as them thinking my enquiry is weird/off in some way. Plus, phone conversations to people you know always start with "hey, how are you", and there's the awkwardness of ending the call. Ugh.

With the latter, I sometimes fail to 'tune in' to the dynamic of the group, and after a few tries just fall silent and 'switch off'. Turn-taking in a conversation becomes really hard, with people having to raise their voice and talk over someone else if they want to say something. I start to feel like I have to 'demand' attention (which everyone naturally gets in a 1-2-1 or a small group), it feels pointless, I give up.

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post #34 of 47 (permalink) Old 12-01-2019, 04:38 PM
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Not being articulate enough or when my mind goes blank frequently in conversation. I just stare into space or say 'um' over and over again when trying to find the right word and then sounding dumb when I cant. Also being sensitive to people's facial expressions and shutting down when I sense judgment . I can't stand even talking in groups because of this- I just notice everything and automatically feel alienated
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post #35 of 47 (permalink) Old 12-01-2019, 05:19 PM
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I don't usually have a problem in social interactions - I can talk just fine, with pretty much anybody. With me it's often just that I feel embarassed about my life situation to some extent - which is pretty silly really, nobody actually cares. They're all worried about their own lives. And when I think of all the things I've done and what I've been through I realise how ridiculous it is for me to even think about that nonsense.
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post #36 of 47 (permalink) Old 12-03-2019, 09:05 PM
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post #37 of 47 (permalink) Old 12-05-2019, 03:45 PM
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I really struggle with knowing when to jump in
Like i really don't want to interrupt people, so i feel like i have something to say and wait for a pause and the pause doesn't come and then the conversation moves on
So then i end up just standing there awkwardly
This also means that often, I'm so worried about interrupted that I'm not even really listening to what the other person is saying
I have gotten better in the past few years, but still a major struggle
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post #38 of 47 (permalink) Old 12-09-2019, 05:36 AM
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It used to be keeping eye contact and mumbling. I occasionally word salad because I have problems being articulate and just generally with not coming off awkward. There's always long silences with people I meet for the first time that I never know how to fill in and I'm too scared to follow up after having talked to them once (Like by greeting them), so I usually just give up on making conversation altogether and stop talking to them.

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post #39 of 47 (permalink) Old 12-09-2019, 07:06 AM
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Fear of speaking in front of a group of people (one to one is ok). Sometimes I have problems with thinking of things to say. I think the biggest problem right now is that my social skills have become rusty due to isolation, so I tend not to speak much at all and as a result people don't talk to me.
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post #40 of 47 (permalink) Old 12-09-2019, 07:20 AM
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Most of the time I don't actually enjoy talking to people. I force it a lot and I pretty much pretend to be interested in the person I'm talking to. It's taken me a while to realize it. I wanna appear friendly and nice but I don't enjoy talking at all.

Also, SA has made me grow more cynical of people so I'm less inclined to reach out or even listen to others. At this point I don't care about improving my SA, I mostly just care about me or my family.

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