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During social interactions, what’s your MAIN problem ?


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I don't actually have all that many problems with social interactions once I'm in them. It depends how I'm feeling in general. Most of the time I'll be fine. But other times I can actually get quite elevated just talking to them - that's a pretty weird feeling and I try to control it because I start talking too much. Everything and everyone seems interesting and fantastic.

If I'm feeling anxious I will avoid situations altogether - I isolate myself.
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Being the focus of attention in a conversation, I can't stand it. :/
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I dont really know. i mean my behaviour pretty obviously. maybe my judgements are getting in the way too, but much of it is habit.

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-being the focus of attention
-being asked questions about my private life
-being asked questions about things I know nothing off, which is most of the things.
-generally not knowing how to reply
-trying to please the conversation partner, being anxious about being a bad conversation partner
-I also generally can't seem to focus probably because my mind drifts to problems that may occur. Often after only 10 seconds or so I totally lost the plot of what the other person is talking about. This leads to awkward situations obviously.
-I also have a hard time understanding probably also a focus problem, I need time to process what they said which is also awkward

After the conversation is finished questioning everything I said for a couple of days, repeating it in my head for days, thinking about what I should have said instead etc. This often happens to conversations I had years ago when they suddenly pop up in my head again.
Have you ever been completely relaxed and then had a conversation with someone?

I used to take a truck-load of Xanax (not recommending it) - I'm just saying - plus also I'm often just relaxed anyway. You can pretty much say whatever you want - most people are thinking about what they're going to say to you in response.

If I worried about all the things I've said (or done) to people I'd have a nervous breakdown. Fortunately I've mostly forgotten anyway.
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Yeah I've been relaxed often when I was drunk, at that moment I'm doing perfectly fine but afterwards (after sobering up) I still replay the conversation on a loop thinking I made an *** of myself. I often just forget what I've done due to drinking so I pretty much quit drinking these days.
I'd probably fall asleep when I use Xanax, I've seen my mother take it and she acts all weird after that so I don't want to use it either.

I haven't really been talking to strangers for several years now
I'm really sorry to hear how rough things are for you mate - I wish there was something I could do to help you.
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I have an awkward, broken way of talking when im not too close to a person. Not quite stuttering but the speech is very choppy. Probably doesn't help me appear all too normal mixed with the fact that I don't always initiate conversations but just sort of walk into already occuring ones at the weirdest times and accidentally interrupt people
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Not being able to speak up and say whats on my mind for fear of judgement.
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Staying focus. Sometimes it feels like everyone and everything is moving too fast for me so I start to panic and try to get away as soon as possible.
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Yeah I've been relaxed often when I was drunk, at that moment I'm doing perfectly fine but afterwards (after sobering up) I still replay the conversation on a loop thinking I made an *** of myself. I often just forget what I've done due to drinking so I pretty much quit drinking these days.
I'd probably fall asleep when I use Xanax, I've seen my mother take it and she acts all weird after that so I don't want to use it either.

I haven't really been talking to strangers for several years now
Have you ever tried tea or coffee? It does the same thing but is considered something relatively safe.
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Not knowing what to say, and putting my foot in my mouth. So I keep my mouth shut, which results in accusations of being a creep or being mentally slow.

I have a problem with being too sensitive as well. One rude remark will make me hate someone forever.

I also get really uncomfortable and anxious and act sort of strange in groups of people. Especially if it's a work meeting where we all have to speak. I would seriously rather die a million horrible deaths than do that sh*t.
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