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"when i was a teen my parents would constantly tell me how ugly i was"

Are you serious? How did you respond? I can't imagine a reason why a parent would ever feel the need to their child that. There aren't many worse things you can do to a child.

I'm pretty satisfied with myself. I clean up pretty nice when I shave and cut my hair well. I just need to be about 6" taller.
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Yep, I think I'm really ugly. The thing is, nobody's ever told me if I was ugly or not and I'm too scared to ask. Because nobody said anything I just assume I'm ugly.
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I know that I'm ugly...I've overheard people say so before. But I really don't blame my SA on it; I just try not to think about it.
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Every day when I look in the mirror I'm disgusted. Sometimes I think I wouldn't even be going through this if I was good looking my whole life.

Does anyone else think that they're ugly, and do you believe that this belief holds you back?
No. I know I'm ugly. And being good looking wouldn't help. If I was good looking people would look at me for being good looking so they'd still be looking at me. Only difference is people would be looking at me for positive reasons but I'd still feel uncomfortable.
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GUMARO wrote: ''when i was a teen my parents would constantly tell me how ugly i was. when i was in my early 20s, i would get a lot of compliments on how attracrive i was. now i dont think i look that good but it doesnt bother anymore.'' The comment from your parents really bothers me! What a lousy , unloving thing to say to one's own child. I'm glad you became content with your looks as you matured and i'm sure you learned a life lesson from the good and bad that was said to you. In other words, remember how the nasty comments had affected you and say good to others.
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I don't think I'm ugly, but I'm not a model. =P

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Yes, I am appalling. I guess I could be worse, though. I hate how I look simply because I'm not amazingly attractive. For myself, "average" is unacceptable. I don't know why I feel like I have to be in the physically gorgeous elite to have even a slight amount of self-esteem. Well, I would probably be highly critical even if I looked like a super model.
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Nah, not really, but I have my moments where I feel ugly.

Some of the comments in this thread remind me of an Elliott Smith lyric (how surprising):

Just looking in the mirror will make you a brave man.
I know my place, hate my face...
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I have definitely referred to myself as ugly before, but mostly in my teenage years. I don't use the word now, since I connotate it somewhat broadly to other factors (like personality). Regarding my physical attractiveness though, I find myself EXTREMELY unattractive and not at all sexually attractive.

I was teased for my red hair, pale skin, and short height (5'5"). I am fairly fit due to my love of running, but it doesn't make me look good. I have never had a girlfriend, and I am virtually never complimented on my looks (just from my mom, which does more harm than good). I come across as if I'm 15 or 16 years old, despite being 23. I think the evidence is in... I'm quite pathetic on looks.

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I'm pretty satisfied with myself. I clean up pretty nice when I shave and cut my hair well. I just need to be about 6" taller.
How tall are you? Are you shorter than my 5'5" ?

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Nah, not really, but I have my moments where I feel ugly.

Some of the comments in this thread remind me of an Elliott Smith lyric (how surprising):

Just looking in the mirror will make you a brave man.
I know my place, hate my face...
I love that song.

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it varies every day. Some days I think I look ugly others I think I'm passable.
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Yup I'm hideous, but I've learned to accept it. I can't even look into a mirror, my mind does something really warped with my image.

When people do compliment me I feel like it's out of pity, so that makes me feel even more awkward.
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'You're so ugly you'll probably have to become gay and sleep with men' - I was about 15 when someone said this to me.

Since the age of 12 I've been called ugly by people at school, random people in the street (girls mainly) and work colleagues. My nickname was 'freak' or 'weirdo' by one workmate.

Sometimes when I look in the mirror I think I'm incredibly brave to have lasted this long, lesser people would have given up by now if they'd been born with my face and body.

Being born with deformed toes, receding hairline at 17, fair skin that refuses to tan, a long neck, bad teeth, acne, weak chin, pigeon chest, glasses etc etc I could go on but who cares.
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I don't feel like I'm ugly, but I sometimes attribute me not able to get a date to my looks. Physically I'm not overweight, fat, or thin; I just lack regular exercise and am out of shape, but I for the most part eat right. I just lack confidence.
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I have never had a girlfriend, and I am virtually never complimented on my looks (just from my mom, which does more harm than good).
Yeah I know where you're coming from with the whole mom thing. I don't think you're a bad looking guy at all. I just thought up a fun game for us sa guys. We should go to a bar together and see who can get more numbers, lol. That would be hilarious and fun, and funny being that we're all going in with the whole sa issue.
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I have definitely referred to myself as ugly before, but mostly in my teenage years. I don't use the word now, since I connotate it somewhat broadly to other factors (like personality). Regarding my physical attractiveness though, I find myself EXTREMELY unattractive and not at all sexually attractive.

I was teased for my red hair, pale skin, and short height (5'5"). I am fairly fit due to my love of running, but it doesn't make me look good. I have never had a girlfriend, and I am virtually never complimented on my looks (just from my mom, which does more harm than good). I come across as if I'm 15 or 16 years old, despite being 23. I think the evidence is in... I'm quite pathetic on looks.

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I'm pretty satisfied with myself. I clean up pretty nice when I shave and cut my hair well. I just need to be about 6" taller.
How tall are you? Are you shorter than my 5'5" ?

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Originally Posted by Strange Religion
Nah, not really, but I have my moments where I feel ugly.

Some of the comments in this thread remind me of an Elliott Smith lyric (how surprising):

Just looking in the mirror will make you a brave man.
I know my place, hate my face...
I love that song.
Nah, I wouldn't say you're pathetic. Your face isn't striking or anything, about average or maybe a bit below average(I'm not an expert ;p), but enough that a girl would find you handsome if she became attracted to you. It really does work that way.

As for your height, I am also short (5'5.5" -5'6") and it is an obstacle, but if you get the right attitude and work on your social skills you'll be fine. You may not get the dream girl you want (not to say attractive girls couldn't become attracted to you) but why would you wanna apply some double standard anyways?
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I've got you guys beat. I'm 5'4" and I'm not gonna grow any taller.
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I have definitely referred to myself as ugly before, but mostly in my teenage years. I don't use the word now, since I connotate it somewhat broadly to other factors (like personality). Regarding my physical attractiveness though, I find myself EXTREMELY unattractive and not at all sexually attractive.

I was teased for my red hair, pale skin, and short height (5'5"). I am fairly fit due to my love of running, but it doesn't make me look good. I have never had a girlfriend, and I am virtually never complimented on my looks (just from my mom, which does more harm than good). I come across as if I'm 15 or 16 years old, despite being 23. I think the evidence is in... I'm quite pathetic on looks.

http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/for ... d,381.html

http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/for ... d,382.html

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I'm pretty satisfied with myself. I clean up pretty nice when I shave and cut my hair well. I just need to be about 6" taller.
How tall are you? Are you shorter than my 5'5" ?

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Originally Posted by Strange Religion
Nah, not really, but I have my moments where I feel ugly.

Some of the comments in this thread remind me of an Elliott Smith lyric (how surprising):

Just looking in the mirror will make you a brave man.
I know my place, hate my face...
I love that song.
I'd hit it. hehe Seriously, you're attractive.
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I go through periods of thinking I look okay and thinking I'm hideously ugly. Not too long ago my acne was completely out of control and I felt horrible about my appearance; it's finally starting to clear up now so I'm feeling better, but I'll never consider myself sexy or attractive; people have told me I'm cute/pretty but I just don't like my appearance most of the time.
Ardrum, I don't find you unattractive
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