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Do you think it is normal to go places with your parents when you are in your 30s?


Do you think it is normal to go places with your parents when you are in your 30s? I do, I see them once a week, somtimes twice. I will go on a walk with them and sometimes to the shops. Because of my mentality I think people are looking at me and judging and stuff. The shop assistant asked if I was at uni when scanning though the check out with my parents, I guessed either it was because I was with them or maybe I look younger? I only have one true friend and they have their own issues and aren't around that often. I am busy with work other than this from home, work from home, but going out somewhere with my parents creates a break from the house - i live alone.

Do you think it is normal to go places with your parents when you are in your 30s?
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I go out to eat with my mom occasionally. I took her to a concert of one of her favorite artists a few years ago after getting them to go with a girlfriend and we ended up breaking up right before. I don't think it's weird. I'm 35, by the way.
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not normal for me, but I'm not normal anyway. pretty extremely normal for many people.

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I go to lunch with my mother a few times a month and if there is a store to check out we will. But I don't really care at all what people think, I see middle age people with their parents and I doubt anybody bats an eye unless the parents are constantly with them. Then maybe people will assume there is something unusual about the person, but overall it's no big deal. Just live your life.

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Normal or not, I do it. Sometimes my mom and I go out to eat or go out on walks. She usually pays, which I'm sure makes me seem young (not that I can't afford it - it's habit more than anything else).

I lived with my dad for six months and we would go out once or twice a week. I didn't care what other people thought about it. He died in January. You never know how much time you have.

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Seems normal then thanks for the replies. It's just my anxiety / paranoia really, it puts me in a real negative mood. Probably low in serotonin, just had some 5htp
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Do you think it is normal to go places with your parents when you are in your 30s? I do, I see them once a week, somtimes twice. I will go on a walk with them and sometimes to the shops. Because of my mentality I think people are looking at me and judging and stuff. The shop assistant asked if I was at uni when scanning though the check out with my parents, I guessed either it was because I was with them or maybe I look younger? I only have one true friend and they have their own issues and aren't around that often. I am busy with work other than this from home, work from home, but going out somewhere with my parents creates a break from the house - i live alone.

Do you think it is normal to go places with your parents when you are in your 30s?
sounds like the person was just being nosy. Some people are nosy and some people are rude and some people are nosy and rude. I'd ignore it. But you could also just give them a look and tell them it's none of their business.

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Very true, I should just shrug it off. Maybe should just thought I looked like I was stocking up on shopping for university, they have a lot of them around that area thinking about it
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Very true, I should just shrug it off. Maybe should just thought I looked like I was stocking up on shopping for university, they have a lot of them around that area thinking about it
I think there might be some kind of push in B&M stores for checkout people to be more talkative these days. It seems like I've noticed they seem to make relatively unnecessary chat more often than they used to. It might be assumed that people who don't use self-checkout are using the manned checkout lines because they prefer a more personal experience. So maybe managers tell the people working them to be chatty or something. Still, I don't like it. I go to the manned ones because people who do it for a living are generally better at doing it right than I am and it's a mess if anything gets screwed up in the self checkout line.

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Yea very true. I often go to the self checkouts but this time I had too much stuff. I don't mind a quick chat if I am in the mood, today wasn't one of those days though
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I don't think that it's bad, it is just society what wants you to think that it's not good thing... It's not wrong to spend some time with parents, especially if you have good ones...

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It is normal imo. You may just be self conscious abt it. Close families hang out at each others houses, go out to dinner, watch the kids, go to the store/movies. Of course, every family is different, but I wouldn't blink an eye at someone being out with their mother. I think it's nice more than anything. If I actually knew the pple and realized they're together very often, I might wonder abt it (but most likely I wouldn't.) Someone in passing? 100% wouldn't give a second thought.

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It's perfectly normal. It is actually always normal. It's just that between ages 12 and 18 (or whatever), it seems like the most humiliating thing in the world.

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I don't think that it's bad, it is just society what wants you to think that it's not good thing... It's not wrong to spend some time with parents, especially if you have good ones...
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My parents usually come to my house once a week and then I go out somewhere with them. Although this week it is strange and will be 2 days.
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That's completely normal. If you never leave the house without your parents, now that would be weird. Like if your parents drove you everywhere.
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It is so normal to go to places with your parents. Some people would do anything to have that kind of relationship with their parents. Family is so important and if you have a good relationship with them, you should cherish that. My mom is my best friend in this world.
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People of all ages go places with their parents. As you get older you don’t just ditch your parents and decide you can’t be seen in public with them 🙂

I used to meet up with my parents for Sunday dinner and go for a walk with them afterwards, it didn’t feel strange at all. In fact, if you have a good relationship with your parents that you can stand their company, well that’s normal in itself lol! 😄

It’s when you are permanently attached to your parents that it becomes strange! 😛
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Yes. I don't go out much with them on a daily basis, but I just invited my mom to a photography event that's coming up and I spent four days on vacation with them at the end of September.

I think if my childhood hadn't been a little rocky, I might do more with them, especially my dad. But I get so anxious being around them sometimes that it's hard.

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