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Do people assume you're smart?


I'm asking this because apparently people from my area think I'm some sort of eccentric genius.

I've been talking to my mother after returning home from uni and she says that people that she didn't even know somehow know my name and asked her how I'm doing after she introduced herself. Also later on I've also talked to people I've hardly known before, and they treated me with a lot of respect I didn't think was warranted.

I find it very weird that my name is regionally known, and I'm not sure why people around here assume that I'm that smart. I mean sure I've had my share of accomplishments that others didn't, but people still think I'm starter than I feel I really am.

So I'm curious, does anyone else have any experiences similar to mine? Of people putting you on a pedestal you don't think you deserve to be put on?
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I don't know about having my name going around like that but people do tell me that I'm very intelligent. I hate when people say that because I don't think so.

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I think normies believe that being quiet = genius.
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I feel like people either think I'm really smart or really stupid. It's like they know I must be different from them because I rarely speak in their presence, but they have to fill in the blank as to what that difference is. I've had people talk down to me like I'm a child and remind me of really obvious things that I already knew; and I've also had people act, like you said, as if I was really smart and just holding back all these crazy smart thoughts I was having because I was too lacking in social skills to voice them. I'm not very good at being objective about myself either, but I would guess that my level of intelligence is pretty close to average.

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EMM .... For me .. yes. This is something I have discovered in the past. Like at colleges and places like that LOL.

thing is .I am not a geeky or nerdy sorta book smarts sorta smart person . AND I dont come across or even look geeky

I am just an intelligent person with a very wide knowledge of a lot of stuff and maybe its the way I speak.
Sometimes I have said something which I thought was maybe ''run of the mill'' and didnt think much of it ... but it left some people with like a surprised or impressed look on their face or whatever. And people seemed to respect it etc.... Enjoyable feeling .

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Sometimes. There's no reason to think they aren't right to some extent, but there's also no reason to take it as anything more than a the person's pleasure in making a compliment or being respectful or having some fun with you if you react to it or some combination of these or other things. Yet it still makes me cringe if someone voices an opinion like that and it makes me feel like a social failure. I'm glad to be surrounded by very smart people who don't make comments like that about me.

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No, actually, people who meet me seem to think I'm an idiot.

They're kinda right though
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Yeah, I've had that problem a lot. Not really sure if I can classify it as a problem, really, but something that has happened multiple times.

It kind of makes me feel good that others think so highly of me, but it also puts a lot of pressure on me... personally, I don't think I'm very intelligent. I'm always afraid of disappointing people for not meeting their high expectations...
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I'm very smart, but I'm not a genius or anything. My family and my old friends were not though, so they tended to think of me as a genius, and they would get surprised and mad at me when I didn't know things or was wrong about things. There have been times I've even been accused of being unhelpful, rude, or intentionally misleading because the possibility that maybe I just don't know never occurred to them.
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YES. I have that one friend that calls me smart all the time and it's super annoying.

I am telling him I am learning the Piano, and he tells me smart people plays the Piano.

The teacher said that smart people like to work alone, and he told me I like to work alone, and say I am smart.

Even in the class room the teacher (Going to College) said "If you can see that answer so quickly we might have to test you in something different but if we tested everyone in that then there would be too many failures".

Yes, I can understand things quickly, but in the end it's 12 hours work everyday. That's the secret to being "smart".

If everyone worked 12 hours a day like me, we'd all be super smart.
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I feel like people either think I'm really smart or really stupid. It's like they know I must be different from them because I rarely speak in their presence, but they have to fill in the blank as to what that difference is. I've had people talk down to me like I'm a child and remind me of really obvious things that I already knew; and I've also had people act, like you said, as if I was really smart and just holding back all these crazy smart thoughts I was having because I was too lacking in social skills to voice them. I'm not very good at being objective about myself either, but I would guess that my level of intelligence is pretty close to average.
^ 100% this.
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I think normies believe that being quiet = genius.
Yup, a classmate once told me that I'm smart, even though we'd never talked before, and I'm quiet and wear glasses
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I think normies believe that being quiet = genius.
i got this a'lot when i was in school. it couldn't be further from the truth lol
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People assumed that I'm mentally slow, mentally ill, boring, lazy, and think they know everything about me, and how my mind works.

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You think you know everything, if you know everything you wouldn't be jobless, and stuck in this predicament.

You never have anything interesting to say, it's always the same talk with you. I have never seen a big grown boy, or other kids in my life who acts like you.

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I think normies believe that being quiet = genius.
Yep.
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Yep. It doesn't help that I wore glasses when I was a kid and that I'm half-Asian.

I always got very good grades in school but I don't think it was because I'm naturally intelligent. It's just that not having friends meant that I had a lot of time to study.

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Maybe you just don't realize how smart you are yet! Even if you aren't "naturally" intelligent, doesn't mean you can't hold intellectual conversations or discuss/ponder in-depth topics!
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I think everyone is smart in their own way. Have various bits of knowledge and experience gathered from their lives. Potential is there, so if you ever exihibit any signs of knowledge that another person might not have or demonstrate something that they hadn't thought of -- they make comments such as "Wow, that's really smart!" I do that all the time, at least. I am fascinated by the way other people think.
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My family thinks I'm smart but that's only by comparison I think because I'm the only person in the house who can do "super complicated stuff" like move a HDMI cord from one device to another or setup a router or something.
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