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post #1 of 7 (permalink) Old 11-20-2020, 01:42 AM Thread Starter
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Did you find something beneficial for being home-quarantined?


hey everyone,

hoping all is well!

guys, did you ever think that somehow being quarantined or isolated in this pandemic brought us something good? Did this situation is relatively beneficial to us with social anxiety?

Your thoughts, please. Thanks!
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I haven't been quarantined, but:
  • Strangers who might've tried to start conversations with me last year are keeping their distance.
  • My habit of crossing the street to avoid people has been normalized and no longer appears rude.
  • Personal space is suddenly respected by almost everyone in stores. It makes the whole grocery shopping experience a lot nicer.
  • Less worry about how I look when I get to have a mask over my face.
  • The neighbors aren't having as many loud conversations/parties.
  • My apartment manager isn't making me go to her office so much.
  • I get a year off from expending energy on meeting people or trying and failing to make friends.
  • I've gained some appreciation for and perspective on the social things I'd been managing in 2019.
  • A pandemic is a great way to test who's trustworthy in your life. (The answer may be unpleasant, but at least you know not to trust them later.)
  • Anxiety and isolation have been normalized... so in the future, people will be able to understand me better because I can just tell them my life is like their 2020.
  • Living alone with no nearby friends is suddenly an admirable position to be in, since it makes my risk of infection so much lower and I don't need to take as many precautions or have as much anxiety when there's nobody for me to infect.
  • I get to be considered an admirable morally superior person just for doing what comes natural.
  • At least I'm not missing out on anything fun now.

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Not yet, since staying at home all the time is normal for me anyway. Biggest difference is I've lost my one outing of the week, going to a restaurant and then grocery shopping, and a once- or twice-yearly shopping visit to a nearby city as well. (Not to say we don't still grocery shop--there's no curbside pickup or delivery around here, no Grubhub or DoorDash or Uber or Lyft or whatever, even the local Walmart doesn't do curbside and the local supermarket that DOES offer curbside, doesn't take online orders. The only change is that I have to stay home while my parents shop, because I can't drive and you're not supposed to go to the store unless you absolutely have to, not that most other people are following that but that's yet another reason for me to stay home. Too many people not taking the pandemic seriously.)

Oh--and much-longer wait times on the phone, for necessary utility services (we had to wait a month for a new hot water heater), and even for online tech support.

I can't even cite the advantage of telemedicine because I guess they don't have that here, for every medical visit I've needed I've still had to go in person. Even to get my medical supplies prescription renewed, I have to go visit my urologist in person next month, an hour's drive away, with infection rates going through the roof. It's not even like he has to examine me or anything. This is just to renew my lifelong prescription for urostomy supplies since the medical supplier can't/won't do it on their own. Yeah, the pandemic has made medical services SO much safer and more convenient. /s

I had to order a new router from our cable provider over the phone at like one in the morning (lots of our electronic devices have started dying during the pandemic, how interesting) and it would've taken a week to ship it (within the same state) so my parents had to drive an hour out of town to pick it up, in March, during the stay-at-home order. Then when we couldn't set it up right, had to wait over an hour on the phone for help the next day. (Online tech support chat had such a long wait we gave up.)

Oh, and the benefits of online ordering...? They don't exist. Like I said, horrendous wait times. I tried reordering my medical supplies online to avoid the phone wait and only part of the order went through (badly formatted online order form, I guess?--I reported it to them but they never fixed it); I had to complain via e-mail to customer support twice (e-mail terrifies me--complaining to support via e-mail terrifies me even more) to get the rest of my supplies (rep told me they were shipping them out right that day...two weeks later we had to contact them again and THEN they said they were shipping them out right that day), and ended up waiting on the phone anyway. No point ordering most groceries or other necessities on Amazon because they don't carry most of the stuff we buy, what they do carry is usually unavailable (two food items I bought became "Currently unavailable, we don't know if or when this item will be back in stock" after I bought them, and months later are still unavailable), and what is available takes ages to ship due to the postal service slowdown. (I'm not a Prime member. You HAVE to shell out extra money for fast shipping, otherwise Amazon will deprioritize your order and you'll be waiting for weeks/months--speaking from experience. Even with fast shipping, you may have to wait at least a couple of weeks. Don't bother expecting anything within two days!--our government ordered the mail to slow down and had numerous mail-sorting machines dismantled, and that issue is still ongoing. An item I bought on Etsy literally sat in a Wisconsin post office for ten days before shipping out. Then it sat in Chicago (Illinois) for four days. I live right next to both--in Michigan.)

There's also panic buying in my area, back in March and now it's starting up again, so in-person shopping is getting complicated as well. People crowd and loiter. Entire families out together. Many don't wear masks. From what I hear, nobody really enforces anything.

Really the only benefit to be had from "quarantine" (we've never actually been quarantined or locked down, just staying at home) is my mother being home more rather than going to the casino, beading club, etc. every week. I'm sure she'd rather be going out, though. (She did go visit a few relatives, and ate out in a restaurant, a few times earlier in the year, which filled me with anger and anxiety, though things have gotten much worse since then and in-dining has been shut down again so I'm hoping she isn't tempted to try that again soon. Oh, once in a while her brother, my uncle, has surprise-dropped in to visit her and although they stayed outside, they stood much closer than six feet, and didn't wear masks. )

And then there's just my overwhelming fear of my parents catching the virus (they're elderly, have underlying conditions, high risk) and if they end up hospitalized (out of town since our local hospital has no inpatient services and the nearest inpatient hospital, an hour away, is filling up with COVID patients), I'm left on my own without help, a terrifying prospect since as I said I can't drive, I'm disabled and depend on them, there's nobody to grocery shop or deliver anything or cook or maintain the house or take me or the cat (who has asthma) to the doctor/dentist/vet etc. and I’m just screwed all around. (My parents are all I have in the world, so don't get me started on the mere prospect of losing them, period.)


So...there are very few benefits to be found during this pandemic, I sure haven't seen or experienced any of the good things they keep showing on TV. Even without taking into account the atrociously slow shipping and lack of basic delivery options in rural areas, I suspect this whole "Alone together, Zooming online with our big groups of friends/relatives, conveniently seeing docs and buying everything online and getting it delivered while we all stay safe at home!" thing is more a TV commercial fantasy than what's actually going on; like I said, aside from wearing masks where required (and sometimes not even then), most people around here seem to be going about life as usual. Thus the outlandish infection rates.

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My family has basically been self-quarantining since this all began in February. My dad is immunocompromised so it makes the most sense for none of us to go anywhere if at all possible -- even me, because if I get COVID it will definitely spread to my dad and he'll almost certainly die. Especially with all the morons around here who refuse to wear masks for a variety of stupid reasons.

I've always been a loner and a recluse but the pandemic has made that more socially-acceptable, or at least understandable. The main benefit to me is that I haven't had to meet in-person with anyone all year long. No lectures in packed classrooms at the university, which always made me nervous. No in-person groups for studying, homework or projects, which is fantastic because I'm generally okay talking with people over the phone or internet as we do now; I just hate in-person collaboration. We have no dumb family parties this year, which is such a relief because I always hated them but felt obligated to go. I haven't been inside a store since February, as we pick up all our groceries curbside and I never have to interact with the people delivering them. And I love my mask! Dumb as it may sound it feels like an extra layer of "security" or "anonymity" to me and I never leave the house without it, and never take it off until I get back home.

Much as I hate the pandemic and do fear for the lives of my parents on a daily basis, I wish most of the social changes induced by it could just stick around forever. I'd love to just stay home forever and never have to deal with another person in-person again; to be able to do everything online or at a 10-foot distance suits me perfectly.

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Its giving me the chance to practice my public speaking skills for free (for now) and spend quality time catching up with myself otherwise I don't get to see the real life beauties of society, so they can see in real life how pathetic I am. Ah one advantage is I don't have to miss putting my foot in my mouth with anyone in real life. I can do that just fine over the internet

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Unfortunately (or fortunately?), I still work so i have some freedoms left untouched. It has perhaps pushed me to appreciate the few freedoms I took advantage of before covid. I think I'll be pushed to start new hobbies soon and to deal with not having any family around. To carve out a little niche for myself in this strange house where 90% of the space and belongings are not mine.

It was really rough in the beginning. Overwhelming in fact. However, it stripped down what was most valuable to me. It's like being, I guess, a person whose friends died one by one. Really isolating. Well, that is discouraging but I'm tempted to pick up the violin as a hobby and put my money into lessons which not every teacher has the chance to teach.. i guess that's my contribution to society.
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Hmm...


Beneficial? The only thing I would say is beneficial is not having to come up with some BS lie about what I do in my free time while I'm not fulfilling the extrovert's fantasy of a good time.

At least, it was like that earlier on... now people expect you to do something mainstream even during quarantine like watching the latest "hit" show or whatever else the masses fling to.

I guess it's fine as long as I don't feel stressed to go out except for necessities. Could be worse I guess

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