ok, I think its a lot about YOUR perspective on it, if yougo into a situation like this thinking "oh great someone wants to talk to me now Im going to be akward" then what will happen? all that expectation will make you anxious, sometimes when we are randomly less aware of a situation provoking anxiety our anxiety drops.
You can provoke yourself anxiety over dumb stuff if you thought "Im going to get anxious when Im on the computer" you will notice how that anxiety feeling comes for a bit, its weird, its easier for us to recall anxiety because its what weve pretty much obsessed about, BUT you can actually do this with any other feeling you wish, brains are amazing, if you imagine that some people who are insane can actually see things that arent there and BELIEVE theyre real, its all caused by their braing, of course, we arent insane but we can "recall" feelings, this is why I think that one must get the right attitude for socail situations, if you try going into a situation with the same thinking "this is going to be awkward" the result will be the same, reason why exposure doesnt always work, goodnews are.. you can change this..
Lets get in perspective for a bit, from a "scientific" point of view, not a human one.. how easy is it to talk? its just pronuncing words, right? well having a conversation is pretty muc h the same, when someone isnt worrying about themselves when in a conversation then the information flow is just much easier, well anyways conversing is easy, much more than any SAer (including myself) would think. Realizign a lot of theese things helped me, ITS EASY, ITS NOT THAT HARD
(btw Im not yelling at you that was aimed at myself and all SAers)