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Are you really scared of people?


I don't really that scared of people, maybe a bit fear toward some kinds of people but I am anti-social right now. I 'll rather do things on my own.

I used to have social anxiety. Now I recovered and I become anti-social. lol.
Anti-social is a good start to get me back to the love of social anxiety. lol
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post #2 of 20 (permalink) Old 07-19-2008, 01:03 AM
 
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You're probably still afraid of people.

Anti-social is probably just a mask for your anxieties.
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You are right in some way. I do afriad of some people but I am not scared of them to the point that I cannot speak to them at all. Just I would completely hide my real feeling in front of them because I don't trust them.

I am quite normal with the people I trust.
I like do things with people, I just don't like the usual social stuff.
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I'm more afraid of how unpredictable people are.
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Sometimes I go out of my way to avoid people. Like I won't go out to get my mail if the neighbors and their friends are standing out in front of their driveway.

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Sometimes I go out of my way to avoid people. Like I won't go out to get my mail if the neighbors and their friends are standing out in front of their driveway.
That is pretty sad, but I do the exact same thing
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Sometimes I go out of my way to avoid people. Like I won't go out to get my mail if the neighbors and their friends are standing out in front of their driveway.
haha yeah..i do this too!

i think i'm like this too...i'm not really terrified of being around people. it's just that i focus too much on what to say to them and i'm way too conscious of myself that i end up being silent most of the time.
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How I am is, if it feels threatening, it probably is. I kinda play it by gut feeling.
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I like to say that I'm allergic to people.

I've done so many things to avoid people: use the self checkout at the grocery store, only use the ATM, or the mailbox at the post office, email instead of calling, etc. Yes I avoid my neighbors, too.

I'm still like this a little bit. I have a lot of solitary activities that I like to do: write, read, walk, run (away from people - ha!), or watch movies and television.

But I force myself to talk with people. The easiest is with strangers because you'll never see them again. I'll ask someone who works in a store where something is. Once a week I'll check out in a store with a real live person instead of the self checkout. When I'm around someone that seems approachable, I make small talk. Or I'll go into a store that requires that I place an order with someone to get what I want. None of this is easy for me. But every small accomplishment counts.

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I'm afraid of how people will react to me. I guess I just have low self esteem, and I'm scared that they'll react negatively to my insecurities.



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fearful yes

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I'm more afraid of how unpredictable people are.
Me too, that's why I'm especially scared of drunk people

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I've been hurt so bad by people over the years that I just don't trust them. When people talk to me to try to open me up, I don't know if they sincerely want to get to know me or if they just want to find something out about me to use it against me.
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I've been hurt so bad by people over the years that I just don't trust them. When people talk to me to try to open me up, I don't know if they sincerely want to get to know me or if they just want to find something out about me to use it against me.
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I'm afraid of how people will react to me. I guess I just have low self esteem, and I'm scared that they'll react negatively to my insecurities.
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i'm not really terrified of being around people. it's just that i focus too much on what to say to them and i'm way too conscious of myself that i end up being silent most of the time.


It seem that I could actually quote all the posts here. I can relate to it all totally.

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I've been hurt so bad by people over the years that I just don't trust them. When people talk to me to try to open me up, I don't know if they sincerely want to get to know me or if they just want to find something out about me to use it against me.
This is exactly how i feel

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..Yes, i am..sometimes of even my own family.it really is a disabiliy.
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Sometimes I do get easily intimidated by others, though try not to let it show when it happens.
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I'm not scared of people. I have anxiety attacks, even when I'm alone. The reason I avoid people is because my worst fear is having an uncontrollable anxiety attack in public where people could see me. I'm much more prone to anxiety attacks when I'm out in a social place, because I never know when I'm going to have one, and in the back of my mind I'm always thinking, damn, what if I have an anxiety attack right now in front of all these people? That makes my mind start to race through all the possible outcomes, and that, in turn, makes me start to panic and that panic slowly starts to get bigger and bigger until I either have to leave immediately or risk freaking out and people seeing me.
I like people, but I'm afraid of them seeing me lose my mind. So then I stay inside, or, if I'm forced to go out, I do my best to be as invisable as possible.
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i'm so used to being by myself that i guess i conjure up anything that would allow myself to be alone. yeah pathetic i know. guess my anxiety controls my actions a lot.
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