I'm always worried I will run into them and they will ask what I'm doing this weekend or my plans for the summer. Because I have no plans. None that involve other people that is. And I find this terribly embarrassing.
In the apartments where I live people don't really speak to each other so it might be a bit alarming if someone came out and asked me what I was up to
. I've spoken to one neighbor and we both got along great because of our beliefs. It makes sense for acquaintances, co-workers and family to ask such questions but I believe there is a different standard for strangers or those you haven't spoken more than a few sentences to.
And... Guess where the fingers will point if there is a noise complaint? It can't be the resident who rarely has guests over! There's no where for a rowdy tenant to shift the blame if they have a large party and cause some ruckus! Landlords will love a quiet person who follows all the rules - I say as long as I please them my life is golden and a neighbor's opinion about me personally won't matter.
What I'd really like is my own cabin in the woods!
I'm sensitive to noise and the thought of wanting to live on a farm in the country sometimes comes to mind. Some people go on cruises or head into a popular city but I wonder if a week of country living would be more relaxing...
Ahhh yes the old "how was your weekend, what did you do?" - hate it. Either have to make something up or fumble around or just be like "ahh was so busy had too much had to take care of, nothing fun blah blah". That is embarrassing too. Over time though eventually they will figure you out and realize you have no social life and that's eve more embarrassing.
What's wrong with saying, "Actually I didn't do much - do you know of any fun places to go out to?"
or "I don't really have anyone to hang out with - do you know anyone who is into ___ ?"
Since your neighbors are the type to chat with each other (going so far as to offer beers), they seem like the friendly type who could offer suggestions. But if they are judging you so harshly that they don't see you as a worthy person who deserves any respect (or that you're just a joke to point and jeer at) I don't see why you'd want to hang out with them for 30 minutes anyway outside of greetings and quick small talk. I don't know which way they are acting towards you but if they are kind, then you don't have to worry about avoiding them. It sounds like the picture you have of them in your mind is worse than reality.
Life is unpredictable and relationships aren't as stable as they appear to be. Maybe it seems like everyone has an endless supply of social connections to call on anytime but its also possible for people to exit your life just as often as they come into it. People move to be closer to family, obtain a job, study out of state, flee undesirable circumstances - the list can go on and on. If someone has a group of best friends that they've had since high school they are BLESSED
and may not even know it
. Gratefulness is what they should be feeling, not contempt for whatever social connections you don't
have at the moment.
Not only do I want to avoid you, I also don't even want you to know I exist.
I bought a welcome mat from Walmart so my cover has been blown