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post #41 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-01-2019, 05:44 PM
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I landed a decent job (it's still under $15 an hour but still way better than the past ones). It's in customer service so I spend 9 hours a day helping the public, which can be overwhelming at times but I've developed ways to not freak out the instant someone asks me a question. Knowing most of the answers helps lol

I also simply stopped trying in some areas, which could be better or worse depending on your perspective. Stopped trying to chase women, no time for that. Instead I invest my time in my siblings and parents, or reading classics I never got around to. I still do too much video games and yes - no social circle. But I'm making money and becoming self-sufficient while bettering the lives of those close to me which I'm okay with for now.

The four areas I want to get myself back into and balanced are fitness, building a social circle, developing some hobbies (jewelry making, sport shooting, learning a foreign language) I stopped doing, and finding a partner who can enjoy and enhance this life I'm building.
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Not sure if getting worse or nowhere at all... But definitely not better...

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post #44 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-02-2019, 01:29 AM
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food considered Sun but closed tight time window 10-4 evaluating whole day full 4-wheel mobility to enjoy. stayed at home. = jail + hospital scenario virtual
retry this morning successfully but aware of severely no knowledge of what food. 4 bare items sussed. nothing i want, ever. all wasting time. 5.03

important laughing at restrictions. no vendor has anything i want. sick of same old menu. time spent at supermarkets using 4 or 2 wheeled transit, all bent to what's offered.. SOLD OUT... peasants have no concept how almighty powers govern the population. must use comedy about lack of availability: food. job. anything. nothing. controlled, whipped away from survivors.

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post #45 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-02-2019, 04:11 AM
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Better. I have such a great group of supportive friends that I've been debating leaving this place since I can just talk to them. I also don't think I have social anxiety anymore and my issues are more trauma-related or job-related, but I know I'll be fine in time.

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post #46 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-02-2019, 07:37 AM
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I guess both.

There are some days where I feel really confident and it reflects on my performance during that day. Then there are other days where that isn't the case....

If something bad happens during the week, that usually puts me down for the whole week and I don't really bounce up right away.

In some regards, I am improving but in others, I am the same if not worse. For example, I'm speaking out more with coworkers but I'm still not really "friends" with any of them.

Though I have always made it my practice to be pleasant to everybody, I have not once actually experienced friendship. I have only the most painful recollections of my various acquaintances ..."
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post #47 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-02-2019, 07:45 AM
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If something bad happens during the week, that usually puts me down for the whole week and I don't really bounce up right away.

I'm like:something bad happens, feel crappy for 1-2 weeks, during which something else bad happens and I feel crappy for 1-2 weeks, ad infinitum. So "bad things" accumulate. Meh whatever
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post #50 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-02-2019, 02:10 PM
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I've been trying to better myself academically alot, but haven't been bothering socially-wise. I'm worried that at this point my social skills are so permanently stunted to the point I've become incredibly socially awkward. I was asking someone for information at school, and they said have a nice day, so I had just turned out when I had already walked away and just said "Mhm". There's been some other instances like that where I had some really weird spontaneous responses/reactions, like telling a waiter "You too" after they told me to enjoy my food, or saying "Yeah" when I'm the first one saying something.

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post #51 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-02-2019, 03:34 PM
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My social anxiety or my life in general? Two different stories.
We appear to have plenty of time to read them both.


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post #52 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-03-2019, 03:46 PM
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I'm worse. I have anxiety and depression all the time. I crave social interaction but don't know how to get out there and do it. I once had an anxiety attack giving directions to an elderly couple. I wrote an apology letter that can never be delivered. That makes my insides numb. I thought I was getting better for a short while. Then a slow spiral I didn't notice right away. I was having bad days mixed in with reasonably good ones and didn't notice when the bad took over. Then the plummet. I feel like crying most days, but most often can't. I don't know why.
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post #53 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-03-2019, 04:19 PM
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Worse on all fronts of the war effort.

And it shames me that I'm pretty much back to where I was ten years ago in life.

I've gained tons of life experience and met the most amazing person. Had been working and forcing hard to make it to this one particular point where I needed to be to finally start being okay.
Then I lost everything yet again. Now I struggle to function.

SA-wise, I went from very socially anxious to getting better to severe social anxiety to forcing everything anyway with enormous effort to barely able to function, and now pretty much in total isolation and agoraphobic. Stepping one foot outside makes my skin crawl, my entire body shake uncontrollably, and the thought of it is mortifying. Yet, it's by far not the biggest thing on my plate, so at times, I do force. Simply because something else is way worse, so whatever now.

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Left my roses on my shelf
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post #54 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-05-2019, 06:01 AM
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I feel like I am about to die. My anxiety is spewing out really badly. I feel physically sick. I have school and I feel like I am dying.
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post #56 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-05-2019, 11:19 AM
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I'd say in many ways I'm considerably worse. Plus there are added complications now.
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post #57 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-05-2019, 11:49 AM
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I dont know im getting better or worse. Sometimes it feels im getting better then again anxiety is back.cant take any medications either.
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post #58 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-05-2019, 11:50 AM
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About the same as always. I seemed to be getting better 4 years ago but that didn't last long.
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post #59 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-05-2019, 01:03 PM
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post #60 of 71 (permalink) Old 09-06-2019, 04:45 PM
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Looking back I guess its generally been getting better, by trying to push my self to do things, but there is always gonna be a bad day too.
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