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anyone has fully recovered from social anxiety?


Hello there

I am wondering if anyone has fully recovered from social anxiety? any inspiring story? I see many stories of progress but I rarely see stories of full recovery and also I am wondering how long did you take you to recover?

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I don't think that SA ever really goes away for us. I think that it's sort of who we are, it's genetically part of us. But I DO think that we can take measures to lessen it's negative impact on our lives. We can learn to take control of it instead of IT being in control of US.

For me it comes in waves, sometimes I'm crippled by it (like my highschool years), and other times I cope with it fine. Late last year I couldn't get out of the house because it would mean I had to encounter other humans, but after some therapy and meds, I am feeling better about going out now.
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In my opinion there isn't a cure for any type of mental illness. You just manage the symptoms either through medications or learn how to manage it through therapy.

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i believe SA is a mental illness but its an illness that is learned. as we all know no one is born shy. babies with inhibited temperaments make up 15-20% of all babies. 2 out of 3 of those babies turns out to be shy. mildly shy as opposed to extreme shyness. these shy babies fall along the continum. what i believe is that regardless of an inhibited temperament, a person can grow up to be socially well adjusted depending on how the baby's parents treated him and the influence of a parents natural temperament on the baby. It has been proven that 93% say they have felt shy at some point in their lives. The other 7% are just lying. its like saying you are born without any emotion to say you've never felt shy. so as a result of my understanding of SA i have and am a recovered SA sufferer. no longer do i let my anxiety ever play the way i live my life. if i ever do feel anxious i immediately bring myself back to the moment and accept my anxiety instead of dwelling on it. so, in response to your answer yes it can be overcome. good luck
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Well, I had crippling social anxiety for four years where I would blush, sweat and get extremly agitated at anything that involved socialising. I have mostly beaten it now though. It was a combination of exercise and medication that did it.

I'm not 100% cured though. I still get that anxious feeling but it's very rare and happens less than once a month as opposed to everyday before and I'm always going out now.

It took a good six months of hard and regular exercise plus a proper diet to start to notice any changes though.
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Well, I'm a senior in high school, and I can honestly say that my SA is nearing the end of its active phase in my life. In the last six months I've made new friends, had a romantic relationship (no more worrying about becoming a 40 year old virgin ), and got accepted into Dartmouth college.
I give credit to seeing a psychologist, taking xanax for a while, and by having positive experiences in my life. I know the anxiety is still there, but at the moment it is basically under control.
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I'm about 75% better

Still to be brought down to size:

1) Dating (10% better)
2) Mild friendship paranoia (50% better)
3) People with a Manipulative Style (75% better)
4) Motivation at work (5% better)

The next alleyway in my journey is filling my life with positive things. Scheduling stuff to do in evenings. Exercise. Positively vibed stuff.

SA beatable? You betcha, but you gotta work at it. Its not like the measles - there aint a quick course of meds or a surgical procedure that will make it go away forever. Steady, consistent work on reversing what got you to where you are now.

The brain is a muscle and you've been working it out the wrong way for a long time! If you went and lifted one set of weights for one day, would you expect to be Arnie by the next morning? NO! The brain is the same! Get a brain workout routine that puts you on an upward slope and start working out today!!

Worked for me: CBT (from books and face to face), Mindfulness, Effexor, A LOT LOT LOT of reading, understanding the disorder, understanding the brain, understanding my past, honesty, letting my emotions out and acknowledging them, being honest about my weaknesses - even the ones I was too ashamed to really admit, focusing on intimacy and closeness instead of social excellence.


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On to concentrate on bright things Stuck around in hopes to help, didnt seem like there was much left I could do anymore ... good luck and comfort to those who are on their own path and hope for those yet to take their first step! Much Love
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I would assume those who have fully recovered from social anxiety do not frequent this board as they are feeling better.




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What would fully recovered mean? Does it mean that you will never again have any fear of any social situations? No people are fearless, whether they have had really bad social anxiety or not.

i dunno man...who knows...ya know??
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I dont know if you can overcome it completely,but its definitely possible to minimize it down to a point where its really no big deal anymore(I'm getting there )
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What it means for me to be fully recovered is that i can cope with any anxiety i feel. eventually you get to a point is the recovery process where its actually very difficult to make yourself feel anxious around people. i do have moments where i feel a little quesy in my stomach but everyone does. basically recovering from SA means your able to take responsibilty for yourself in situations where you used to feel out of control. you know that everything will be fine and nothing will be nearly as bad. once u start feeling better though you want to go out and by wanting to go out you learn a great deal about the social aspect in life and learn how to interact with people. once you learn the skills the fear goes away. if you force yourself to feel confident for short intervals of time around people. whatever u can manage at this point, u start seeing positive effects. but you have to start socializing on a basis where even if you dont want to go out u do anyway. just take it slow. keep looking for those positive experiences and build upon those, thats what causes confidence.

I had SA from the age of about 13 till i was 20. but only because i never knew i had a disorder till i was 19. so it took me somewhere of around a year before i was fully recovered. most of that time was spent not trying to overcome it. once i started going out i found myself rid of 70% of my social anxiety over about a 4-5 month period. it takes a while depending on how long you've had it.
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Most likely, no one fully recovers. Great improvement can be made, though.
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Don't forget - anxiety is a normal human emotion. Even 'The Normals' get anxious a lot of the time! Meeting new people can be worrisome because you do not know quite how to behave yet - thats why people are very polite at first and take time to warm up. This 'urge' to be polite at first comes from that same feeling - the anxiety of meeting new people or of being on display. Even noted speakers get nervous when they go up to do a speech - its just how they utilise that adrenaline that is important. No one experiences no anxiety. Even if you have had SA all your life, I believe you can reach a level that is comparable to 'normal' - and because of this, no - you will never be totally free of anxiety.

Only class A drugs can can do that, but thats not much of a life

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I've been kicking SA in the *** lately so I'm happy about that. I still have A LOT of moments but I notice improvements in a some important areas. It goes in waves. Some days are better than others.

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Whee !!

On to concentrate on bright things Stuck around in hopes to help, didnt seem like there was much left I could do anymore ... good luck and comfort to those who are on their own path and hope for those yet to take their first step! Much Love
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I would assume those who have fully recovered from social anxiety do not frequent this board as they are feeling better.
Very good point. Don't get discouraged by people on this board who say that they can't fully recover from social anxiety. The ones that have had moved on and don't want to frequent this forum anymore.
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I would assume those who have fully recovered from social anxiety do not frequent this board as they are feeling better.
Very good point. Don't get discouraged by people on this board who say that they can't fully recover from social anxiety. The ones that have had moved on and don't want to frequent this forum anymore.
Yeah thats true! I see some people for short periods of time here. They don't come here to post pictures or do any of the other socialization stuff but simply to use the board to get better. And they're serious about it and then they're gone. Some come back a couple years posting how they got better in the triumphs section or whatever.

That is interesting (the not sticking around on this board) because I think it is an external proof of an internal shift. They just don't vibe with the same kind of information or discussions. They read something but just don't gel with it... maybe they remember that they went through it but their current state of mind is different. Normal people think differently. Its just that simple. And then they leave. That is not to say this is a bad place. Its just not the right place for them anymore. So they leave.

The mindset of normal people is different from SA'ers. I know Duh! but if you take a closer look... its the cause of SA! Thats why Ross's (may I call you that?) example of exercising the brain to re-wire the neural patterns is a major way to change. Now some people may be anxiously prone naturally even without wrong thought patterns like Highly Sensitive People but even there I believe that solutions are available.

Its just the will to get where we want to be. Thats all is required. will, commitment, desire, courage, effort all pretty much the same. I've been here 4 years but only in the last 4 months have I really, actively put in the effort and am seeing the results! I hope that its only a short time away till I am anxiety free. Then its a process of experiencing Life situations and learning social skills. Life Beckons. :-)
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It is really encouraging to see many of you progessing, I myself have made huge improvements but when I start to lose self control, to procrastinate and to live a life of failure, Social anxiety and depression reappear slowly until it controls me, all of that because of lack of commitment in therapy but this time, I am gonna work on my therapy, improve and keep improving for a long period and I will never fall in my old problems like procrastination which leads to stress and failure and all of the elements that strengthen Social anxiety and depression.
I think social anxiety therapy group is one of the best solutions.
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if only we all could attain nirvana then all our anxiety would be gone. buddhism is the way to pure bliss.
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The record does not look good. If you haven't "fully recovered" from social anxiety disorder, I don't trust your opinion on what will eventually make you/us fully recover. It doesn't seem like optimism does anything to help. Good weeks happen, but they can be followed by bad weeks/months. Keep it real.
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