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post #21 of 38 (permalink) Old 08-29-2019, 02:58 PM
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I definitely feel at ease around other girls. I've been around dudes most of my life, and my mom was always more masculine, I guess, personality wise. It seems really challenging to make solid friends with girls, but super easy to carry on a conversation briefly or as acquaintances.

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But is anyone more comfortable being surrounded by people of their own gender? My hobbies often are popular with a lot of men, and I'll try to get into groups or attend events that suit my interests but there are a lot of times where no women are present at them and I get really anxious, and slightly intimidated and feel the need to leave. I don't know why this is, I've never been the victim of abuse or have had any real negative relationships with males. Additionally I don't seem to get anxious around agender or transgender people, Is this a common feeling?
My theory is🤔,it could be stupid. I think with being comfortable with our own gender is not ONLY about gender having common interests but also about attraction,bare with me,am having an epiphany here😁. I think if you find women attractive for example their opinion about you will subconsciously matter more than people you are not attracted to. Example as a guy I don't really give a thought about guys knowing I skipped a bath on two cold nights or I repeated underwear (theoretical ofcos). I think people are comfortable where they wont feel the pressure to be beautiful/funny/handsome/cute/charming/desirable etc.

I really have bad days I feel like am alone but it was once worse. I think am making progress and finding my smile back.

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My theory is🤔,it could be stupid. I think with being comfortable with our own gender is not ONLY about gender having common interests but also about attraction,bare with me,am having an epiphany here😁. I think if you find women attractive for example their opinion about you will subconsciously matter more than people you are not attracted to. Example as a guy I don't really give a thought about guys knowing I skipped a bath on two cold nights or I repeated underwear (theoretical ofcos). I think people are comfortable where they wont feel the pressure to be beautiful/funny/handsome/cute/charming/desirable etc.
Definitely stuff to consider
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Thanks bro

I really have bad days I feel like am alone but it was once worse. I think am making progress and finding my smile back.

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Why do everyone assume I'm a dude =p
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Gender stereotypes + people often assume that people online are male unless they have enough evidence that points to the opposite.

Also I noticed bro seems to be becoming increasingly gender neutral like dude/man did before it in some dialects.

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If I really think about it I wouldn't say I feel more comfortable with one gender more than another. For me nowadays it has much more to do with what that person's like - if they seem sensitive and compassionate. Gender really doesn't seem to play much of a role in that as far as I can see.
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Like others here, I'm the exact opposite. I much prefer the company of women, and I am comparatively much more at ease.

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Gender stereotypes + people often assume that people online are male unless they have enough evidence that points to the opposite.

Also I noticed bro seems to be becoming increasingly gender neutral like dude/man did before it in some dialects.
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I have friends of both gender, and my closest male friend observes that I seem to hate them. It was partly in jest but it's true, I very rarely have arguments with other women whereas I have terrible fights with male friends and partners.

There's a common mean girl trope in female friendships but I don't experience it... We're more often more gentle, supportive, and protective of another (at least in my social circles of the past 5-6 years). The non-family male relationships I've had have been borderline cruel, tactless, or abusive at their worst.

I've definitely met some good guys, but I think men are less hesitant to be harsh to others.
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as a male fake woman i am slightly miffed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I have friends of both gender, and my closest male friend observes that I seem to hate them. It was partly in jest but it's true, I very rarely have arguments with other women whereas I have terrible fights with male friends and partners.

There's a common mean girl trope in female friendships but I don't experience it... We're more often more gentle, supportive, and protective of another (at least in my social circles of the past 5-6 years). The non-family male relationships I've had have been borderline cruel, tactless, or abusive at their worst.

I've definitely met some good guys, but I think men are less hesitant to be harsh to others.
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post #34 of 38 (permalink) Old 09-04-2019, 06:02 AM
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I'm naturally more anxious around men I don't know well compared to women because I have some past unprocessed trauma involving men. But when I was younger I had a tendency to get on a lot better with guys and I had more male friends than female.

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as a male fake woman i am slightly miffed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



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post #36 of 38 (permalink) Old 09-04-2019, 10:21 AM
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Originally gender is a word created to describe roles assigned to people of specific sex by society, their family etc since birth. But now seems like people use it and "sex" interchangably cause they were never informed on those things and linguistic nuances. As for people with a specific gender identity, even some of them think "gender is biological" or something. So it gets convoluted. But the most important thing to remember is that the correct use is the social side of it, not the biological one (sex). That's how it's used in academia from where it originated.

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I'm not that comfortable with anyone unless I know them to a certain degree & like them enough to a reasonable degree, then I can be comfortable with anyone.






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post #38 of 38 (permalink) Old 09-05-2019, 04:29 PM
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It depends on the context. When it comes to one to one interactions I'm usually more comfortable with men. But I think I'd be more comfortable in a class full of women than men, probably mainly because that's what I have experience with. Also prefer female doctors for most things, but it depends.
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