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This is fantastic! I hope it helps many many people on these boards
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I find these techniques to be great. Thank you so much for sharing! I don't necessarily need these techniques as I'm very quickly getting over my SA myself. But as an aspiring future therapist who wants to specialize in anxiety, I find some of these to be great. I'll probably be printing this out for reference.

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What a thorough list. Are you a therapy student?

Thanks a lot for posting all of this!

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Just Tony used Bump on thread!
It was super effective!

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No need to keep bumping for now. I will leave this up as a sticky. There is an awful lot to process (almost too much).

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There's SO much valuable information here.

To practice this stuff you really have to 'small chunk it' practice a little each time. I think the gradual exposure mixed with cognitive therapy (which entails a good majority of those techniques) is the way to go.

I'll apply some of these in my CBT online group therapy group
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Definitely liking this. I'm definitely going to try applying these in my own life!

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Hi. I appreciate methods as well. I appreciate them so much that whenever there is a new reply in this topic, I check it, hoping to find more techniques. But all I find are people saying how great the techniques already described are! If this is going to remain a "sticky" post, it would be great if people recommended their own techniques, or shared experiences of how the listed methods are working out for them! Just a suggestion, forum masters.

Otherwise, I fear this post is outside the definition of a forum. A forum is a place where many people interact and share data and experiences. It's not a place where one person, call him or her the "author", writes a paper that the rest of as as passive "readers" just read and comment on how thankful we are.
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Gradual Exposure --- This is a very specific one, I've learned that premature exposure nearly always backfires, the most import part of the concept is little bits of little interactions over time.
Eventually picks up speed, and eventually breaking the shell point.
From there on people develop their interpretation of "**** happens, how to get used to the ups and dows"... the notion of adjusting to spontaneous events tied up in time, yes life....
or in TL;DR acceptance of a sort.

Diversity Technique --- Ultimate reminder/ remember that even here- you will NEVER find someone who is 100% exactly like you so whenever you feel isolated remember that the root of your problem is shared because this is a disorder, being an individual doesn't mean you are alone. We all have problems and things can always get worse as much they can always get better

Also try and avoid thinking in absolutes.
Instead of thinking "She IS a *****" or "I AM a failure" think; "I FEEL like a failure" or "She SEEMS to be ACTING like a *****"
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There's a lot of good stuff here, but I would urge everyone to take this bit with a large pinch of salt:

If sexual situations make you unconfortable you might try phone sex, then a strip club and you might try a even get yourself a lap dancer. Then finally you can go all the way and get a prostitute.
Seeking sex like this is very likely to make your SA 10x worse. First of all, the relationship with a prostitute or lapdancer is a financial one. Hollywood is full of myths about hookers with hearts of gold, but the reality is likely to be a cold, emotionless transaction with a high likelihood of making you hate yourself even more in the aftermath.

To make matters worse, the experience could, on a physical level, be addictive. You could end up stuck in a cycle of using prostitutes to satisfy your physical urges without nourishing your emotional needs and your feelings of self worth will plummet. You could also end up being deterred from seeking a 'proper' relationships as your physical needs are being (kind of) met.

Whereas your SA means you probably imagine that in normal life a woman hates you, there is every chance that a prostitute really does hate you. Particularly if she's suffered abuse in her past as many of them have. So ask yourself this: do you really want to be another part of her ongoing misery? Do you really want sex with someone who hates you anyway?

We all have sexual needs and desires, but sex shouldn't be an end in itself. It should be part of an intimate loving relationship. You will not get that with a prostitute.

I know that initiating contact with women isn't easy, but believe it or not they're not the unattainable, castrating maneaters some guys think they are. If you have problems approaching women, you just need to work on your confidence a bit and discover that rejection ain't the worse thing that can happen - it's quite easy to be knocked back and maintain your dignity!

Thanks to the internet there are loads of opportunities to meet women who share similar interests to you. Loads of women even suffer from the same confidence issues as us men too. Hell, this site should have a dating section!

Using a prostitute as a substitute is just a way of avoiding your problems. It certainly won't help you deal with them.

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