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SMART Training for Anxiety


I recently had the singular experience of attending a Seminar on the S.M.A.R.T. method by Dr. Amit Sood. This is a method of stress relief that has been developed by several doctors at Mayo clinic. It stands for Stress management and Resilience Training. I found it to be very helpful.

Most of my anxiety stems from interactions with those of the male persuasion, but also very aggressive/competitive females. I have found also, like many of you, that as my stress goes up, my anxiety symptoms get worse. I have implemented many of the techniques used in the SMART training and found them to be very practical, methodical and effective.

One of the first things they recommend that you do is to start taking control of your thoughts. Instead of allowing your brain to wander, you choose your thoughts. If you find yourself in a moment where you are not task focused, they recommend that you take that time to send those in your life, family, friends, enemies, all...to send them well-wishes or little mental blessings. You can make this non religious, spiritual, or religious, according to your preferences...and this allows you to prevent the mental obsession and ruminating that can sometimes lead to or exacerbate the negative thought process that leads to social anxiety.

This is something that I am practicing on a daily basis. Each of the recommended tasks, I am trying to practice them for 21 days each so that I develop them as habits. During this time, I am also journaling my progress and setbacks in order to prepare for the next stage.

I will post more about this method in my next post. I would like to hear if anyone else has been trained in this method, and if so, how it has worked out for you in the long run. I am very interested to hear from other women who have experienced anxiety around men, specifically if they are employees that you have to supervise, and especially if they are particularly attractive. Aside from my usual anxiety around men, I am currently experiencing acute anxiety as the new supervisor of an extremely attractive male. Same anxiety over the fact that he is male...new anxiety over the fact that he is my responsibility and very attractive.

I look forward to your responses. : )

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It is a good way to be relax from anxiety.

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Lmao wow I made this up in my mind thinking I was the only one! haha wowwwww thank The Lord I'm not the only one like this... It's not cuz I smoke weed. Been this way my whole life.
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Wow this is me thinking in my head to get over this lol spot on. It does work. But I'm not fully over it yet... I don't think ill ever be to be honest
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So I should approach drunk women at bars and try to take advantage of their inebriated state?

No thank you.

I want a girlfriend not hepatitis...I am not interested in becoming a sleezeball.
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My attention span is too short to read through everything, but it seems like the gist is 'just do it'.
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So I should approach drunk women at bars and try to take advantage of their inebriated state?

No thank you.

I want a girlfriend not hepatitis...I am not interested in becoming a sleezeball.
There suggestions. You tackle your own problem how you like.

When you feel vulnerable and your psychological defenses are failing the best defense mechanism is to be more trusting.
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My attention span is too short to read through everything, but it seems like the gist is 'just do it'.
Pretty much. You can tackle social anxiety with all sorts of mental gymnastics.

When you feel vulnerable and your psychological defenses are failing the best defense mechanism is to be more trusting.
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Thank you so much Jimity for sharing these techniques! Just what I needed.
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Yes, it is good of you to create this thread. By the way, what's Heaven like?

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Not all it's cracked up to be.

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I used to have anxiety. It ruled my being.

It started in high school.

Im almost 30 now.

I now have no anxiety.

The key: Acceptance. Fighting anxiety is doing yourself a disservice because you are trying to rid of something that has and is a part of you. Accepting the anxiety will naturally rid of it. It takes time, but focus on acceptance and your world will change. Knowing that the effects of anxiety are normal, that they are not made up or unnatural, but instead they are part of this universe will lead to a full acceptance. Acceptance will help you cope with the fear of anxiety. The fear is the hardest part, not the symptoms. Fear is the hardest thing to conquer, but if you learn to accept fear, you will live your life in peace. Beating fear means accepting all that is. all that will be. all that has been.

If you remember anything: Acceptance is key.
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I used to have anxiety. It ruled my being.

It started in high school.

Im almost 30 now.

I now have no anxiety.

The key: Acceptance. Fighting anxiety is doing yourself a disservice because you are trying to rid of something that has and is a part of you. Accepting the anxiety will naturally rid of it. It takes time, but focus on acceptance and your world will change. Knowing that the effects of anxiety are normal, that they are not made up or unnatural, but instead they are part of this universe will lead to a full acceptance. Acceptance will help you cope with the fear of anxiety. The fear is the hardest part, not the symptoms. Fear is the hardest thing to conquer, but if you learn to accept fear, you will live your life in peace. Beating fear means accepting all that is. all that will be. all that has been.

If you remember anything: Acceptance is key.
I was thinking about this today. Just accept the way I am. Like I'm real shy and awkward and I just have to accept this is the way I am and I must live with being like that. It's like being born with a physical disability. There is no point in trying to fight the disabillity if there is nothing you can really do so must just come to accept the way you are.

When you feel vulnerable and your psychological defenses are failing the best defense mechanism is to be more trusting.
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I recently had the singular experience of attending a Seminar on the S.M.A.R.T. method by Dr. Amit Sood. This is a method of stress relief that has been developed by several doctors at Mayo clinic. It stands for Stress management and Resilience Training. I found it to be very helpful.

Most of my anxiety stems from interactions with those of the male persuasion, but also very aggressive/competitive females. I have found also, like many of you, that as my stress goes up, my anxiety symptoms get worse. I have implemented many of the techniques used in the SMART training and found them to be very practical, methodical and effective.

One of the first things they recommend that you do is to start taking control of your thoughts. Instead of allowing your brain to wander, you choose your thoughts. If you find yourself in a moment where you are not task focused, they recommend that you take that time to send those in your life, family, friends, enemies, all...to send them well-wishes or little mental blessings. You can make this non religious, spiritual, or religious, according to your preferences...and this allows you to prevent the mental obsession and ruminating that can sometimes lead to or exacerbate the negative thought process that leads to social anxiety.

This is something that I am practicing on a daily basis. Each of the recommended tasks, I am trying to practice them for 21 days each so that I develop them as habits. During this time, I am also journaling my progress and setbacks in order to prepare for the next stage.

I will post more about this method in my next post. I would like to hear if anyone else has been trained in this method, and if so, how it has worked out for you in the long run. I am very interested to hear from other women who have experienced anxiety around men, specifically if they are employees that you have to supervise, and especially if they are particularly attractive. Aside from my usual anxiety around men, I am currently experiencing acute anxiety as the new supervisor of an extremely attractive male. Same anxiety over the fact that he is male...new anxiety over the fact that he is my responsibility and very attractive.

I look forward to your responses. : )

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I am bumping this topic for it's invaluable content and recent discussions if possible. I am in my 40 something and have lived with SA for the rest of my life. imity has said a lot of great things to do and perhaps you have tried many of them. What works for me is acting silly without any hesitation and telling myself, this is the worst it can get so what and sometime when my mind keeps thinking about the past, it's very hard not too although if one pauses for a moment and thinks that it's virtually impossible for anyone to know what is going in my head then everything becomes a little easier but not always. I never though so many techniques existed and gonna try some tomorrow and report you all back. Could you all share something more on how to let go when you are in the loop? Here is my example :

My mind keeps thinking that someone is watching me. I know they are probably just thinking about how insecure they are too. Perhaps that are thinking something else not what I think. This seems to be worse when you have a co-worker who too seems to have a SA but won't share a thing even if you do about the SA. I guess it's best to pretend that he/she doesn't have it seems to work sometime. Anyone here has tried any method listed here. Thank you so much imity
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Wow this is me thinking in my head to get over this lol spot on. It does work. But I'm not fully over it yet... I don't think ill ever be to be honest
Laughing at myself when I am In going through anxiety helps me overcome It.
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