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post #21 of 26 (permalink) Old 08-07-2019, 03:03 AM
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Not really true.


Anyway, if you don't want children then you don't need to consider this. And when it comes to relationships, then maybe you should try and get into therapy to address your anxiety / rejection sensitivity and self-esteem issues. I would not buy into any pua stuff. You're better off just focusing on further developing empathy, social skills, and putting yourself in positions where you can actually meet women, on a regular bases. Eventually something will happen.
That's fair enough, there is the option of a sperm bank though which will mitigate the issue. For women they can freeze their eggs as well but pregnancy can be hard on their bodies and being older can be tougher to go through it, recovery ability drops with age too. In general men do have less worry on this than women do.


When you say PUA tip I hope you don't mean it about what I said! It's not PUA at all just a form of gradual exposure, skill and experience building which can be tried if he just can't approach.
The idea is to try yourself and develop the way to talk to ladies organically and not follow some pattern or rulebook someone else wrote for you (which is what PUA is) so you can naturally attract those who are genuinely a good match for you.
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When you say PUA tip I hope you don't mean it about what I said! It's not PUA at all just a form of gradual exposure, skill and experience building which can be tried if he just can't approach.
No I think exposure is crucial. I didn't think you were talking about that. Just there's still a lot of pua / seduction stuff online so it's easy for a lot of men to go through a phase with that if they start googling, and most of it is pretty terrible.
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No I think exposure is crucial. I didn't think you were talking about that. Just there's still a lot of pua / seduction stuff online so it's easy for a lot of men to go through a phase with that if they start googling, and most of it is pretty terrible.
I could be wrong but I get the impression that PUA is about getting into as many one night stands with different women as possible. Not my goal or thing here. I don't have very high standards and if I find 'the right woman' on the first try I'd be glad since it would mean I could give up the dating game and just have a normal relationship that could lead to something great. I like freedom00's advice so far. Years ago when I had another job where I interacted often with female coworkers it definitely helped, I was much better at approaching and talking to women.
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I could be wrong but I get the impression that PUA is about getting into as many one night stands with different women as possible. Not my goal or thing here. I don't have very high standards and if I find 'the right woman' on the first try I'd be glad since it would mean I could give up the dating game and just have a normal relationship that could lead to something great. I like freedom00's advice so far. Years ago when I had another job where I interacted often with female coworkers it definitely helped, I was much better at approaching and talking to women.
That's great I hope you're ready to go for it now, let us know how you get on!
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Im really happy for you!


I feel like I was almost in the same exact situation as you before.
But my life kinda turned around 2 or 3 years ago (probably around the same age as you are presently).


Everything is very similiar (including the no girlfriend part )... but I feel like my social skills still need work
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