Andy, I don't want to sound shrewish or cynical but this post is annoying cos you don't get it.
FFS s.a is nothing like being gay and the reason it's wrong is because it's a mental disorder.
It DOES need correcting, no matter how much the s.a person protests of hides away they DO need to get back out and live a normal life cos otherwise they will. not. be. happy.
They'll be less anxious, they'll DEFINATELY be less anxious but they will. not. be. happy.
Human beings are social creatures who, like any other animal, avoid fear and seeks pleasure, THATS why we hide cos we can't cope out there, but 'OUT THERE' is the ONLY world there is and the ONLY life we have.
Even if an s.a person says they don't want friends, they don't want a lover or a legitimate claim to holidays, their own wedding, their own kids, their own house, their own job etc this is denial but they often don't realise they DO want some or all of those things. Trust me, they really do.