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Money. Anyone who says otherwise is delusional.
If it is one or the the other for a lifetime? I.e. take the money and be loveless forever?
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If it is one or the the other for a lifetime? I.e. take the money and be loveless forever?
If you get the love you get to keep your current income and plenty of people can survive on that. I wouldn't mind living on my current income anywhere near as much as having lifelong loneliness, but I don't think being loveless has to mean being lonely. But if I get no friends apart from my partner then I would go with the koala.

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A world w/o my love and $1m dollar to my name, I couldn't do that. Having an other half when you have anxiety makes a world of difference to your spirit too
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Those are some pretty crazy conditions vs. quite a small amount of money in comparison

Chances are you'd end up killing yourself or something. I mean you're cutting off a huge part of being human and the happiness that comes with it with no way to get it back and all this for only a million?

Say you take the money. Now you're not poor but you're not super insane "I can do anything!" rich. Its probably not even enough to live a very cushy life without having a job, unless invested well which is a gamble, even in property it'll be a long time before you see returns and you're handcuffed on a weekly/monthly basis.

The only people I can see seriously taking the money are those in denial or those who are young lacking foresight.


restrictions on companionship need to lessened and money stakes raised for this to be a question
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No, it's not a lot of money. Even 100 million and I would still go with the relationship.
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If you get the love you get to keep your current income and plenty of people can survive on that. I wouldn't mind living on my current income anywhere near as much as having lifelong loneliness, but I don't think being loveless has to mean being lonely. But if I get no friends apart from my partner then I would go with the koala.
The Koala is always the safe option!

I could live happily on my current income forever. I am quite frugal and seem to have money left over ever month to buy something that I might want. I feel that I am a step up from surviving. Working actually keeps on the straight and narrow emotionally so I see the value beyond money in having my time occupied for 42 hours a week.

Thing is though, $1m isn't a lot of money over a lifetime. It is only going to last that long with considered investment (in the UK starting your own property rental portfolio would be the safest bet) and even then your lifestyle wouldn't be extravagant. Most people would blow that amount of money within five years and end up back at square one anyway, they don't realise things like once you drive a Ferrari off a forecourt you lose $60k or how much it costs to run a large house.

Finding a true life partner is worth much more than money IMO.
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No, it's not a lot of money. Even 100 million and I would still go with the relationship.
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Money is useless once you have enough to live comfortably. What can I do with excess money? Buy a nice car?? Pointless... Travel? Pointless if I have no one to go with.

I'd choose a lifelong partner over infinite money.
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I'd go with the lifelong partner. You can keep that bread, Ed.
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I'm not sure that a flat million dollars is much of a "fortune" anymore. I still think that I'd just opt for the money, though.
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Assuming I already didn't have enough money to live comfortably, I would take the money.

I don't really want money itself, I just want to be able to survive with the bare basics without excessive worries or cares. That for me is as close as I could get to true happiness.

Even if it meant completely resigning to any chance of romantic fulfillment it would still be fine by me, if it also meant resigning to any chance of meaningful friendship or platonic bonds then it gets a lot more difficult... But I would probably take it anyway.
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$1M hands down. Not even a contest.
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Money of course .

You do realize that romantic Love is merely an executable script which commands your brain to seek ways in which to Reproduce ?
True enough, but then pretty much any human behaviour is derived from the same script. Not saying I disagree, but no sense stopping at love (though love is a particularly choice example of genetically induced insanity)

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Those are some pretty crazy conditions vs. quite a small amount of money in comparison

Chances are you'd end up killing yourself or something. I mean you're cutting off a huge part of being human and the happiness that comes with it with no way to get it back and all this for only a million?

Say you take the money. Now you're not poor but you're not super insane "I can do anything!" rich. Its probably not even enough to live a very cushy life without having a job, unless invested well which is a gamble, even in property it'll be a long time before you see returns and you're handcuffed on a weekly/monthly basis.

The only people I can see seriously taking the money are those in denial or those who are young lacking foresight.

restrictions on companionship need to lessened and money stakes raised for this to be a question
Whilst the money side of the question is undoubtedly much less than it seems, I think you have also underestimated the negatives of the other side, that is, having a partner for life. For some (myself) this would basically be hell.

For some people this is a straight up choice between something they don't want and a million $.
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Whilst the money side of the question is undoubtedly much less than it seems, I think you have also underestimated the negatives of the other side, that is, having a partner for life. For some (myself) this would basically be hell.

For some people this is a straight up choice between something they don't want and a million $.
from the op:

"or instant love and happy marriage forever while retaining my income"

there may be negatives in reality but going on what the op said, you'll be happy forever.
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I think those of you who genuinely believe they can spend their whole lives alone, can not actually picture themselves being in that position for life. The very basis behind solitary confinement torture is that we humans are social creatures, and once that's taken from us we will eventually go through psychological disorders, only to end up committing suicide at some point. The same can be said for living life without a single genuine human relationship; it may sound less harmful, but it lasts much longer making it even worse.
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Take the money, so you will be able to hire hundreds of escorts and maybe you will be able to get to know their regular girl friends, then maybe you could get to know their friend's friends too and so on, so you will get the chance to meet a lot of normal girls too.
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No you wouldn't.
Really? I thought I was pretty sure about this. What makes you know that I would go for the money?
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