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I seriously feel so lonely, sad and depressed still now in the Christmas season :(


I don't know where to go for help. I really need your support. I can't control if other people don't want to be around me or really like me as a friend. I really want a friend that I really like to be friends with. I'm so sad, depressed and lonely and it's the weekend again. My main family's busy tomorrow.
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Aww.

Most of get that way, so you are not alone.
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Aww.

Most of get that way, so you are not alone.
Really? Most of us get that way? I don't know what to do. I've tried getting a friend in real life that I really like to be friends with and hoping they'd really like to be friends with me but I haven't found what I would call a real friend irl for a few years now. Thank you very much Mondo for your care and support I really don't want to "wait" anymore, I'm really unhappy this way.
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Really? Most of us get that way? I don't know what to do. I've tried getting a friend in real life that I really like to be friends with and hoping they'd really like to be friends with me but I haven't found what I would call a real friend irl for a few years now. Thank you very much Mondo for your care and support I really don't want to "wait" anymore, I'm really unhappy this way.
You're welcome.

It is finding someone you get along with and that can take meeting hundreds of people before you find that one person.

Basically have to put yourself out there and meet a lot of people.

Sometimes find people like us are at home alot or don't stand out in crowds.

A social anxiety meetup is where you might find similar people who understand SA. But even then there is different personalities.
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I don't know where to go for help. I really need your support. I can't control if other people don't want to be around me or really like me as a friend. I really want a friend that I really like to be friends with. I'm so sad, depressed and lonely and it's the weekend again. My main family's busy tomorrow.
Same here. I only have one real friend. One that actually sometimes asks me how I'm doing. I don't see him often because he lives in another city and has a girlfriend... But appart from him, I don't have other friends.

Just a few days ago, my coworkers organized a diner. Everyone was invited, except me. I only know of it, because some other guy working in the pharmacy asked me if I was going (perhaps he thought I had been invited...) and I told him I haven't been invited. He than told me he wasn't going too because he didn't find it correct that I wasn't invited.

I guess I make people feel uncomfortable.

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Sorry about that, in your particular situation I assume drinking more is not an option : /






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Same here. I only have one real friend. One that actually sometimes asks me how I'm doing. I don't see him often because he lives in another city and has a girlfriend... But appart from him, I don't have other friends.

Just a few days ago, my coworkers organized a diner. Everyone was invited, except me. I only know of it, because some other guy working in the pharmacy asked me if I was going (perhaps he thought I had been invited...) and I told him I haven't been invited. He than told me he wasn't going too because he didn't find it correct that I wasn't invited.

I guess I make people feel uncomfortable.
At least you have "1" real friend! Congratulations! but actually sorry to hear that he lives in another city and has a girlfriend so it makes for less time w/ you. Mine is complicated. I've really been wanting to be one person's friend, but he really likes to play ping pong which is ok but I have such a short time talking to him and he's older but I don't think that's a problem. I wish for things to be alright for me but I have on and off depression now. My heart aches at times. I'm scared of that, but tomorrow I'm going out w/ family so that should make me feel better for the time being. Thank you very much for your support.


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Sorry about that, in your particular situation I assume drinking more is not an option : /
No, drinking doesn't do for me and I have a bad reaction to it, plus I'm still on medication. Thanks for trying to help.
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You're welcome.

It is finding someone you get along with and that can take meeting hundreds of people before you find that one person.

Basically have to put yourself out there and meet a lot of people.

Sometimes find people like us are at home alot or don't stand out in crowds.

A social anxiety meetup is where you might find similar people who understand SA. But even then there is different personalities.
Yes in general I like to find people who are suitable for me.
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Yes in general I like to find people who are suitable for me.
I hope you do find people similar to you.

Church might be another place where find people with SA.
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The Christmas period is a difficult time for a lot of us, me included. All the forced, fake socialising is draining. So you're not alone there 😉
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Christmas time is the same for me aswell. It’s the loneliest time. With social media, it’s worse coz all you see is people posting with their friends and partners. I get so envious and just wish I had such relationships. Hang in there.
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Just a few days ago, my coworkers organized a diner. Everyone was invited, except me. I only know of it, because some other guy working in the pharmacy asked me if I was going (perhaps he thought I had been invited...) and I told him I haven't been invited. He than told me he wasn't going too because he didn't find it correct that I wasn't invited.

I guess I make people feel uncomfortable.
That's a really horrible thing to happen to you! Even if you do make them feel uncomfortable, they shouldn't make you feel worse by leaving you out... Sorry to hear about it!!
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I can't wait until the holidays are over!
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post #14 of 14 (permalink) Old 11-08-2019, 11:21 AM
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I have no friends either that's why I cling so much to internet peeps. But I really want some one in real life that understands me and just wants my company.

Need a friend or support? Send me a PM and I'll answer as soon as I can.

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